Domestic Goddess Lessons

Let's Party! ... on A Budget

2011-12-20T14:20:00.000-08:00

Dear Goddesses in Training,

Ah, December...the shopping...the gift wrapping...and (for my family) the partying!!!

This month marks not only the birth of the Big JC, but also the birthdays of both my oldest child (aka Wonder Girl) and my incredible husband (aka Techno Hubby).

Most of us wives revel in the beauty of the season, gleefully decorating the Christmas tree and hanging up lights. I too love this part of the season. However, my challenge is to not only plan how we will celebrate the holidays but also 2 additional birthday parties - all within a week's time. Eeep!

Needless to say, I've got the Christmas decorations down to a science. Every year, in true Grizwald style, we cram our brood into the Vundervan and head on out to cut down the ye 'ol Christmas Tree. After 8 years, this tradition still makes the kids feel the spirit of the season and marks the true start of the holidays (we are strong supporters of keeping Thanksgiving sacred so don't buy into the whole "Christmas starts after Halloween" fluff). Then we get home, make some of my special Mexican Chocolate and get down to the nitty gritty of setting up the tree and decorating the mantle. Its amazing how our homes come to life with just the addition of a few sparkly things.

Then its time to party down!

The coming week marks preparation for my daughter's birthday. Wonder Girl requested a Butterfly & Bugs party this year. A diplomatic choice as she wanted both her girl and boys friends to enjoy the soiree. My diplomatic role: To keep our budget from running into deficit! I began to brainstorm how I could pull this event together on a small budget of $20. Impossible you say? Let's break it down (cue music):

Decorations:

1 package of multicolor tissue paper $1.00 (Dollar Tree)
1 package hot pink tissue paper $1.00 (Wal-Mart)
Goodies for goody bags $3.00 (Dollar Tree)
Cookies & Candy for cupcakes $4.00 (Dollar Tree)
Butterfly wings for birthday girl $1.00 (Dollar Tree)
Activity for party (suncatchers) $8.00 (Dollar Tree)
Plates & Napkins $2.00 (Wal-Mart)

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GRAND TOTAL: $20.00

With a few additional supplies from our craft box (I'm a huge crafter so this may put me at an advantage) and some ingenuity, we got the show on the road! Here is what we did:

The Decorations:

The big "ta-da!" of the set up was the flower chandelier we created out of multi-colored tissue paper. See a video about how this is done here. We jazzed it up by creating paper bees that we suspended from the flower with craft wire. You will need:

1 Package Multi-colored Tissue Paper
1 Pipecleaner
Craft Wire
Construction Paper
Patience

I loved this paper flower technique so much I made additional flowers out of the hot pink tissue paper which I used to decorate the center of the table.

Additional TIP: Keep the leftover decorations and put them in a "deco" box for use later. We rarely go through all the cups/plates/napkins I buy so I put them in ziploc bags and keep them for future gatherings. Our "Happy Birthday" sign has been re-used since Wonder Girl's 2nd birthday (she's 8)! Also the flower chandelier is now hanging above my daughter's bed - a daily reminder of her fun day.

Goody Bags & Centerpiece

Our centerpiece was the fabulous goody bags we made out of plain paper bags, grass which we made out of construction paper, a cloud (which I printed "Thank you for fluttering by" on my computer) and more bees and butterflies suspended from craft wire.

Since we chose to do cupcakes instead of a full cake, the centerpiece also had tons of candy and cookies to make cookie butterflies or worms in dirt. You will need:

12-24 Cupcakes with icing (homemade from pantry stuff so no additional $)
Classic Oreos (crumbled in blender/food processor)
Golden Oreos (take the cookies apart and each cookie makes a butterfly wing)
Gummy worms
Jelly Beans

Activities

Wonder Girl loves crafts so we wanted to make this a party where she could "create" something special with her friends that they could take home. We made suncatchers as well as did word searches together and a color page. Afterward we watched A Bug's Life and soon her friends left happy, full of giggles and with a suncatcher, goody bag of playdough, candied bracelets and other yummy stuff.

It was a really simple party, but we put a lot of heart into making it special no matter how much money we put into it. My kids loved helping me make the flowers, bees and butterflies and I know that our party really made Wonder Girl smile.

~The Domestic Goddess

Tomorrow: Man Party! (seriously)

Clara the Great

2011-12-20T00:22:00.000-08:00

Dear Goddesses in Training,

I must share with you my absolute favorite YouTube sensation, Great Depression Cooking with Clara. I invite you to visit her channel and website. It's full of affordable, inventive recipes and insightful stories from Clara's childhood. She is so charming - you can't help but wish she was your own sweet granny.

What I find so endearing is her positive outlook when discussing her family's hardships of the Great Depression. When most of us think of this dark time we associate it with families that came close to starvation, however Clara shows us that this was not necessarily true. Through hard work and simple common sense, her family was able to provide quite well for themselves even in the hardest of times - a great lesson for us all.

Here is my favorite episode where Clara shares here Eggs & Peppers Recipe as well as her homemade bread recipe (yum).
Part I
Part II

Enjoy!

-The Domestic Goddess

MOM Gift Guide: The Ouch Pouch

2011-12-16T19:43:00.000-08:00

Dear Goddesses in Training,

I found these today while doing a little online shopping. Aren't they adorable? And such a great idea!

The Ouch Pouch
(2 for $10.75)

Did your ♥Toddler♥ get a BOO BOO on the playground? KISS your baby's boo boo's away in FASHIONISTA STYLE with an adorable DESIGNER OUCH POUCH®

The Ouch Pouch® is an ORIGINAL Designer First Aid Pouch with an easy-to-view clear front pocket that will neatly hold YOUR owie supplies. Great for:

♥ bike bag ♥ suitcase ♥ backpack ♥ purse ♥ car ♥ diaper bag ♥ desk ♥golf bag ♥ garage ♥ beach bag ♥ brief case ♥ stroller

For more info visit Momtrepreneur, Karen's Etsy Shop by clicking here.

Shopping Tip: Support small businesses this holiday season by visiting Etsy.com which is an online market place for crafters and entrepreneurs. They have some incredibly beautiful items that make unique Christmas gifts.

Happy shopping :)

~The Domestic Goddess

Haute Off the Minivan

2011-12-14T08:08:00.000-08:00

Dear Goddesses in Training,

I used to take a Nacho Libre approach to my daily wardrobe, aka I believed in "sweeeeeats."

However, now that I am a Fashion Entrepreneur, Stylist and Instructor at a local design college I've found that my approach to Mommy fashion has undergone a "Stylevolution." Its taken me a while, and I'm still evolving, but I've found the biggest challenge was fighting with the common ideas that all busy moms have about style...

Most moms look at fashion as one of the following:

Functional: "I only have to wear enough clothing to get me from here, to my kids school and back."
Unnecessary: "I'm a MOM, who cares what I look like?"
Confusing: "They're mixing prints now, sheesh! I just figured out belts!"
Dangerous: "What mother wears 4 inch heels? I mean, really?!"
Stupid: "Cashmere and spit up? I don't think so!"

I have to admit that I have been prey to all of these thoughts. I have been too tired, too stressed, too busy and (honestly) too lazy to care about what goes on my back.

The challenge is to create a wardrobe that is functional for the chaotic, crazy, and unexpected daily things that hit my everyday. In all honesty the hardest part was finding where to start. What looked good on my body? What trends do I pay attention to? Does that skirt go with that jacket? Wait, did I say skirt?

So I went hunting for inspiration. My favorite Mama Style icon is Victoria Beckham. Her style, though overly sophisticated to most, is actually quite smart once you disect its components.

Haute Mama Tip #1: SOLID COLORS are a girl's best friend.

Mrs. Beckham rarely wears patterns and tends to pair only 1-2 solid colors together. Why? Because she's a time saver just like the rest of us Moms! When you pack your closet with versatile (and washable) clothing in solid colors that all go together then its a flash to get ready in the morning. Also, layering is a cinch! How do you pull in prints? Try a crocodile belt or leopard print flats.

Haute Mama Tip #2: JEANS!

YES, Mrs. Beckham DOES wear jeans! Who knew, right? This is my absolute favorite and most versatile piece of clothing I own. You can pair them with a black boyfriend sweater (its slimming ladies!) or with a white button down shirt and wrap around scarf. For fresh new ideas on how to use scarves in your wardrobe watch this video by Glamour Magazine.

Haute Mama Tip #3: Use Smoke & Mirrors

When you look at Victoria as a whole she's a little slip of a woman. Her style strength is that she uses optical illusions to make her appear 8 feet tall. A 5'4" Houdini, she does this by:

Short hair style - this emphasizes her oval shaped face and elongates her neck
Darker eye make-up and neutral lips - draws our eyes up to her highest point
Skinny cut jeans and trousers - legs appear longer
Pencil skirts and high waisted bottoms - midrift appears leaner
Lighter colored pants/skirts and darker colored tops- the eye stretches over her little frame, making us believe she's longer than she really is

Us regular folk can use optical illusions to appear slim, long and lean, by using these techniques and by simply using color. Wear lighter colors underneath darker colors. For example: wear straight/skinny jeans with a white tank and black cardigan. Voila! You're 10lbs lighter!

Whatever your personal style, or lack thereof, try to rethink how the world sees you today. Start small, maybe (gasp) wear your hair in a side braid instead of in its ever-present ponytail (Try these hairstyles by Real Simple Magazine.) Or take some mommy friends to the mall and have a jean scavenger hunt - who ever passes the "butt" test wins! (Try these tips for buying the perfect pair by allwomenstalk.com)

Just have fun with it girls...and suck it up! Your kids' friends are watching (eep!)

~The Domestic Goddess

ONE GREAT MEAL: Mom's Magic Soup

2011-12-13T12:32:00.000-08:00

Hello Goddesses in Training!

In honor of my current fever I've decided to post my favorite remedy...my Mom's magic soup!

Step 1: Grocery List

VEGETABLE SECTION:

Head of Garlic

Carrots

Potatoes

Cabbage

Onion

Jalapeños (pickled with juice)

MEAT SECTION:

Chicken (bone in/out, whatever your preference/price range)

FROM THE FRIDGE/PANTRY: (If you don't have these items in stock, make them a part of your regular pantry items)

Salt & Pepper

INGREDIENTS:

2-3 tbsp Oil
1/4 Onion, minced
2-4 cloves garlic, minced
2 potatoes, lightly chopped
4 carrots, sliced
1/2 cabbage, lightly chopped
1/4 cup Jalapeños, sliced w/juice
Salt & Pepper to taste
4-5 cups Water

Step 2: Preparation:

Place stock pot on stove on medium-high heat. Add oil, onion and garlic. Cook until translucent.
Add chicken and rest of ingredients. Add more water if necessary. Should be soupy.
Bring to a boil, cover and simmer at medium-low heat for 30 minutes.

What's so magical?

Garlic is a natural antibiotic. Fill your diet with this little jewel while sick and though you will be a joy to talk to (lol), you'll get better in no time.
Jalapeños pack a mighty powerful punch of Vitamin C - more so than oranges! If you're not into soup, have them on salads, sandwiches, whatever!
*** These two ingredients and my moms soup recipe got me through colds/flu symptoms during pregnancy when medications were a not allowed.

Get well sprites! I'm going back to bed...

~The Domestic Goddess

Green Cleaning Machine

2011-12-12T09:38:00.000-08:00

Dear Goddesses in Training,

For the past few years I've experimented with homemade household cleaners. I wish I could tell you I've done so because I'm one of this hip "Green" Mommies, but the absolute truth is I did it because I'm one of those "Nervous" Mommies. (bites nails)

It all began at my son's first toddler wellness exam. Our pediatrician discussed with us things we should be concerned about, behavioral issues, upcoming vaccinations, etc. He then made a dramatic pause and said, "Now, I must tell you, you will have to watch this one veeeerrry closely as he is a boy."

(cue my "is this guy serious?" face. Wasn't he there for the circumcision?)

The pediatrician continued:
"Boys are more likely than girls to inject poison - they get into everything!"

I immediately thought of the soap poisoning scene in A Christmas Story.

"It was...it was...soap poisoning!"

The second I got home I went through the house gathering all chemicals and cleansers and put them in the cabinet above my sink, high above little hands. As I was doing this I realized there was an incredible amount of poisons in my home.

Surely there was an alternative way to keep my home germ free as well as safe for my babies. I mean, how did our grandmothers do it?

So I did a little research and found the following recipes. I can attest that I have tried most of them and have found that not only do they work great, but they've saved me a lot of money as well!

WHITE VINEGAR Kitchen Cleaner
1 cup white vinegar
1 cup water

I've used this solution in my kitchen to clean countertops, sinks, cabinets, floor and fixtures. It cuts through soap residue, deodorizes and leaves a brilliant shine. Don't like the vinegar smell, no problem - it goes away when it dries. You can also use straight vinegar for tougher jobs like toilets or even as a natural fabric softener in your laundry.

BAKING SODA Tub Cleaner
A paste of baking soda and water works wonders in bathroom tubs and sinks. Simply add just enough water to make a fine paste, wipe onto surfaces, go put your feet up for 10-20 minutes, come back and rinse clean.

HOMEMADE GLASS CLEANER
1 cup rubbing (isopropyl) alcohol
1 cup water
1 tablespoon white vinegar

Works great on mirrors and windows!

Now that my children are older they love to help me clean and can safely do so with these non-toxic recipes. Even our 2 year old has fun wiping down cabinets and windows!

My next challenge is to make my own laundry detergent...I've found this amazing website that has a great how to recipe: http://www.thefamilyhomestead.com/laundrysoap2.htm

I'll let you know how that adventure turns out!

Happy cleaning!

- The Domestic Goddess

To Give IS to Thank

2011-12-08T20:24:00.000-08:00

Dearest Goddesses in Training,

Ah, the holidays...

I've heard many parents ask how to keep the holiday spirit while enstilling the importance of giving in their children. It's difficult, that's for sure. Especially with so many products trying to grab our attention and our cash.

For me, the holidays are a bit different. I don't see them as a jumble of things to do, a string of stress to take in. Instead, I take a step back at this time of year and remember holidays past...

When I was a little girl I didn't have much. The child of a single parent living in hard times, I remember that the holidays were not always plentiful. But despite our troubles, my mother always made everything beautiful and focused on what we had and how beautiful that could be. She made me focus on the here, the now, and realize the abundance in that.

My most memorable holiday was one in which my sister, who lived with my father, was coming to visit. Mom was excited, but nervous as she didn't know if she could afford a full dinner. Above all else, she wanted to make the holiday as great as it could be as it was the first one I could remember where we were all together. It was important to her to spend a memorable moment with her girls. She focused on that and l prayed that all would go well. Not long after the full dinner and fixings, as well as toys for me and my sister were donated. We were happy and felt blessed.

I remember being so excited to get not just one, but three baby dolls from the donations. Mom looked at them, and then at me and said, "No, wait. Just take one and you will bless two other little girls as you have been blessed." My child-like heart was sad for a moment. But the lesson always stayed with me. To give is to truly be thankful for what you have.

Today my family focuses on traditions like cutting down our Christmas tree, decorating, crafts, making s'mores, baking together, seeing the lights downtown, going to the Nutcracker, music, watching all the claymation holiday classics, building the first fire of the season in the fireplace, and snuggling (we're huge snugglers).

It's Holidaypalooza!

Recently we added community service to our list as we attended a wrapping party for the children of Elf Louise. It was so incredibly beautiful to watch the excitement my children had in choosing and preparing gifts, not for themselves, but for a complete stranger. We blessed 5 families that night and as we walked away from the event both my children exclaimed "that was so much fun! I hope they have a great Christmas!"

And the point of it all?? GIVING OF YOURSELF. We have fun and always ask the kids "what's the best part of the holidays?" their response: "Giving!"

At the end of the day material things come and go. But it's time, faith, generosity and love that are the most blessed of gifts. To give of yourself in these ways, to be there...that's what the holidays are all about.

-The Domestic Goddess

ONE GREAT SNACK: Heavenly Hummus

2011-12-07T07:37:00.000-08:00

Hello Goddesses in Training!

I have had many requests for yummy dinner items, but one of the things that I'm rarely asked about are healthy recipes for snacks.

Are we really that hooked on the bon bons?

Now don't get me wrong, I can nosh on chips and dip with the best of them...but with the holidays approaching its not a bad idea to consider healthy alternatives for in between binging on turkey...stuffing...ham...green bean casserole...and a barrage of pies.

I learned how to make Hummus after falling in love with it at a local restaurant. Its astounding to me that Hummus is considered a "cult classic" only amongst devout foodies.

It's tastetacular!

Unfortunately us common folk tend to be intimidated by Hummus because we don't know much about it and believe it to be complicated or too "European" for our hamburger and fries pallets.

However, Hummus is an incredibly simple Mediterranean dish that is full of good fat and protein.

Now I know what you're thinking: "Good FAT?" (faint)

Yes, indeed there is a fat that is good for you! (applause)

According to http://www.hummus101.com/:
"(Hummus) is about 60-70% water. And though Tahini, the second most important ingredient, is basically a fatty extract (of sesame seeds), only 10% of the final “product” is fat. And we’re talking about good fat, with lots of Omega 3 in it (200-300mg in an average serving of about 1 cup). The rest is mostly Carbohydrates and protein.

Overall, hummus contains up to 200 calories for 100g, and a large hummus portion may contain up to 300 grams. True, not really dietary in the regular sense. On the other hand, it makes you really satiated, without increasing glucose levels in your blood that much (Gthe lycemic Index, GI, is 10-15). So for most people hummus is a healthy, calorie-worthy choice.

Hummus also contains lots of crucial nutrients, most of which come from the tahini BTW. It has a high content of important minerals like Manganese, Copper and Sodium, and also some Calcium, Iron, Magnesium and Zinc. It is relatively reach in Vitamin C and B6 and also contain Vitamin E, K, Folate and Thiamin.

Hummus also contain about 20 essential Amino Acids, including large dosages of Tryptophan,
Phenylalanine and Tyrosine, a threesome that makes it, surprisingly, a potential substitute for Prozac and the such. Omega 3 too was found to be effective in treatment for minor mood disorders, such as depression and anxiety."

If you're interested in trying this yummy dip for yourself, try this easy recipe:

Heavenly Hummus

Step 1: Grocery List
VEGETABLE SECTION:

1 Head of Garlic- Helpful Hint: Always buy garlic heads that are completely closed. Any exposed cloves or broken skin will make the cloves mold or deteriorate. Also do not refrigerate as they will be more difficult to chop and mold faster. Just buy what you believe you will use within 2 weeks time and keep in an air tight container. Oh, and if you're not a garlic fan try red peppers, spinach or any other flavor you love - savory or sweet!

FROM THE FRIDGE/PANTRY: (If you don't have these items in stock, make them a part of your regular pantry items)

Cooking/ Olive Oil - Which ever you have on hand/prefer, but olive oil is better for you.
Salt & Pepper
Cayenne Powder
Garlic Powder - if you don't have fresh
Tahini Paste - You can find this in the Asian section of your grocery store or at a organic/health food store
1 lb can Goya Garbonzo Beans - the beans are the main ingredient. I like the Goya brand (located in the Hispanic section of your grocery store) because it comes in such a large can.

Step 2: Prepare!

INGREDIENTS:

2-3 tbsp Oil
1 1 lb can Goya Garbonzo Beans
4-6 cloves garlic
1/2 tsp Cayenne Powder
1 tbsp Tahini Paste
Salt & Pepper to taste

PREPARATION:

You will make this recipe in 2 batches. In a blender place 1/2 your garlic and blend.
Add 1/2 of the remaining ingredients (except for the oil) and blend. While blending add 1/2 the oil. If ingredients get sticky or if the paste is too thick, add a little bit more oil - careful you don't add too much.
Make the second batch in exactly the same way.
Serve in your favorite serving dish and enjoy!

My favorite snacks with this recipe are:

whole grain crackers w/ Hummus and tuna in olive oil
whole grain crackers w/ Hummus and avocado
tortilla wrap w/Hummus, deli turkey and avocado
replace mayo with hummus on sandwiches or in tuna salad

Deliciousness!

~The Domestic Goddess

I've Got A New Obsession...

2011-12-06T08:51:00.000-08:00

Dear Goddesses in Training,

I've got a new obsession! Well...actually let's call it epiphany. Its nothing new and will certainly get you all eye-rolling in no time - but I'm hooked!

(stands up, pauses for dramatic effect) Hello. My name is The Domestic Goddess, and I am a Couponer.

(cue shocked gasps)

My road to couponing began at a good friend's home when, in the midst of a conversation about Alaskan Salmon (she's from Alaska) and keeping our husbands in check she suddenly stopped, wide-eyed and exclaimed "WAIT! You have to watch THIS!" She then proceeded to show me her Tivo-ed episodes of TLC's Extreme Couponing. After 6 episodes (yes I said 6!) we were scouring the internet looking up our local grocery store's coupon policy and finding resources on the topic.

My first gut reaction was, those women are nuts! Who needs that much deodorant? And if you DO need that much, perhaps a visit to your doctor should take priority to 60 hours a week of couponing! No one needs that much stuff! But the episode that really got me was the ex-military family that used their skills to collect over $10,000 in donations to soldiers overseas and local charities. THAT is something I can get behind.

The next day I decided to see what I could find on YouTube on the subject as the math and organization of couponing really confused me. How can all those things possibly be free??? I just couldn't wrap my brain around it! And that's when I found www.savingwellspendingless.com, a website established by Ruth, a Florida mom that was so frustrated about fighting with her husband over money that she turned to couponing for extra money for shoes. Her site has truly inspired me as it is easy to navigate and offers YouTube videos (look for Extreme Couponing for Normal People) of her in the store shopping with her two toddlers in tow and buying items that any person can use. She makes it easy to understand the process as well with an 8 week Couponing for Beginners homework list, a free E-book and even coupon match ups that match your favorite grocery and drug stores with in-store and manufacturers coupons. How easy is that?! I highly recommend this site and its sister blog Living Better, Spending Less where she blogs about her shopping trips (with a break down of what she's purchased) and fun recipes and crafts to boot.

So from what I have gathered from TLC, Ruth and countless other blogs/sites I've researched is that couponing does take a bit of planning, but that savings need not be a full time job. The jist of couponing is this:
1. Start by gathering coupons. This could be done by:

Newspaper - most sites suggest subscribing to only the Sunday edition of your local paper and requesting extra coupon inserts -there may be a nominal fee for this. Sadly, the San Antonio Express News is not coupon friendly as any extra copies of the paper that you have delivered to your door need to be paid for in advance - for an entire 6 months! Geez, get with the program SA!
By Mail - There is a host of savings that gets delivered to your mailbox every week. Red Plum and Super Savers are 2 inserts that are delivered weekly whether you subscribe or not. Clip away!!! And a little hint for those of u who collect your mail in mail centers...check the refuse/recycling bins for extra copies.
In - store - Many grocery and drug stores incorporate coupons in their weekly sales on top of things that are on sale. HEB for instance has a place in store where you can gather up their yellow coupons in advance of sales or to look at the gamete of savings in one place. Their monthly magazine also has a wealth of coupons. At Wal-Mart pick up a few copies (one per family member) of All You Magazine for extra savings.
On-line - I was really surprised at the amount of online FREE services that are available to us. Simply log on or sign up and you can print away! Note: There are some restrictions as to how many coupons you can print per printer/computer. So if you have multiple computers in the house, log on to the website from each one and you can print out more coupons.

2. Organize! Most experts say that you should keep as many coupons as possible meaning that it is imperative to organize it all. Its a little daunting to be honest. But a simple accordian file folder or filing box are all you need to keep it all together. Ruth had some amazing suggestions for organization and I strongly suggest using her system. My suggestion for efficient coupon cutting...stack like coupons on top of one another, staple and snip.

3. Strategize. This is the skinny on couponing. Never pay full price. Never buy anything that isn't on sale. How it works (the basics):
- look for items on sale
- look for coupons for those same items on sale
- use the coupon when purchasing sale items = extra savings/ FREE

4. Stockpile! The most disturbing part of TLC's program was the excessive stockpiles that I saw. I questioned this at first because there are a lot of offers out there for things that my family doesn't use or have any interest in. Why should I buy to excess??? The point I've found is to build up a stock pile so you don't hv to shop as often. After trying this for a while, it's definitely a double savings.

My goal is to save money from grocery shopping and apply those savings to my school loans or other debt so that we can buy a home - NOT hoarding. Frankly, there are so many people in need and if I am blessed by this, why can't I donate items that we may not need, but that so many other people may find useful?? So the point, keep what will be beneficial to your family, work the system to your benefit, and donate the rest!

- The Domestc Goddess

A Long Staycay

2011-12-04T21:34:00.001-08:00

Hello Again Goddesses,

I know, long time, no blog. This year has been a strange one with so many highs and even more lows. There have been more challenging years, certainly, but for some reason I've let too many things get in the way of what is important to me...like writing.

But lately I've felt an itch to write, to reach out and share the little wisdom I've been blessed with. There are so many things to say! So get ready my lovelies...the Goddess is coming back!

Please feel free to comment or leave a question about what you'd like the 'ol Goddess to share...more meals, home or parenting tips...whatever is on your heart right now. There's no question too big or too small.

I can't wait to connect again!

Love,
The Domestic Goddess

SWEET Update!

2011-02-16T19:05:00.000-08:00

Dear Goddesses in Training,

I have now been on my sugar sabbatical for 1 month. All I can say is: I want a chocolate cake!!!!

No lie, this experiment has been a hard one. At first, it was pure will and stubbornness that kept me away from all that sweet goodness.

"I don't need you!" I'd shout at the delicious snacks I'd see my family eating. After I consoled my children and promised my husband I wasn't talking about him, I resigned to the fact that this was much harder than I thought it would be.

Oh! And there were some slip ups, or as I would like to call them "Social Sweetastrophies." You know those instances where you're with friends or at a gathering in which it would "be rude" not to partake in a sweet offering? You know, (laughing) I couldn't be cruel to such a generous host...could I?

I HAD to think of other alternatives to going cold turkey. I HAD to psych myself out and find a way to have sugar without actually HAVING it. So here is what I came up with...

1. BAKE. I know what you're thinking - "Are you crazy!?" But you'll thank me, really. There's nothing more comforting than something homemade. It makes u feel all warm and fuzzy inside and is always fulfilling somehow. Now I know that most of you non-bakers out there think that you can get through this by simply buying a box, adding eggs, oil - or if you're really lazy - water, as a way to cheat this step. Don't! The point of baking when you're trying to avoid sugar is to make something wholesome and comforting to build endorphins and lesson the need for mood-altering substances like sugar. Something that you can make with your own ingredients that isn't full of preservatives and empty calories. Be brave and just do it! Substitute granulated sugar with Splenda's Brown Sugar Substitute, Sugar Free Honey or Applesauce.

2. SHOP IN YOUR CLOSET. Most of us have something in our closet that we absolutely love, but that we avoid like the plague. Why? Because it makes us feel like we're wearing a cellulite suit. Seriously. Pull out that dress you use to love or (cue dramatic music) the bikini you USED to look killer in and put it on. Ok, now take a good hard look at yourself. Look at everything - front and back. Most of us complain about our bodies, content to whine about it as a whole or focus on an "area," but don't really take stock of what we got up on there. Hate your thighs...ok...why do you hate them? Do you have cellulite? Where? Back of your legs? Upper thighs a little heavier than you'd like? Have you lost your waist? What is it exactly that you'd like to change? This assessment is crucial in making goals for the areas you'd like to alter, finding exercises that target those areas, as well as noticing the things that will change over time. For instance, I used to have a tiny waist. I've lost that over the years (3 kids and one husband later) and I'd love it if there was less jiggle in my tummy. Over the last month I've noticed that these areas have improved - there's no better justification for making a lifestyle change then seeing it in the mirror and in your clothes!

3. EAT!!! One of the reasons we overindulge in chocolate or sugary things is because our body thinks its starving for something, our natural sugar levels drop, and our mood plummets with it. The best solution is to stop eating like our mother told us - big carb breakfast, lunch and dinner. Try to think of it as eating like they did in Middle Earth - those Hobbits knew what they were doing! Start with a good, healthy breakfast that's high in protein as protein makes you feel fuller longer. No, you don't have to give up eggs entirely. They are actually a great source of protein. Just be smart about it. If you eat two eggs, make one of them a whole egg and one of them only egg whites. And add some spinach (fresh tastes better and its an amazing source of protein) and yummy spices. Then 3 hours later have a snack. Try string cheese, or avocado and hummus on crackers. Not an entire meal, just something to keep you from getting the mid-morning munchies. And then have lunch. Like sandwiches? Switch to whole wheat bread and add some veggies. Three hours later have another snack. And then a healthy dinner. And another snack before bed. This method will keep you from wanting to splurge as well as kick start your metabolism.

So its not so hard, my lovelies, to do this. Ok, well...its a little hard. I won't lie...I still want chocolate cake. It will feel like torture at first, but I can tell you its all worth it. I'm doing something positive for me, boosting my self esteem, and in the long run doing what I can to make sure I am there when my family needs me for many years to come.

~ The Domestic Goddess

A Sweeter Me

2011-01-12T08:00:00.000-08:00

Dear Goddesses in Training,
I'm not one to follow crazy Get-Fit-Quick fads...well...not really.

A few years ago my husband made the vow to lose weight. Of course we had to tag-team. We started with the South Beach Diet. Truthfully, Phase I was really hard. Basically I had to cut out all of the fruits and veggies that I had always believed were healthy. And I've NEVER been a carnivore so the intense focus on protein was just insane for me. So I found myself losing about 7lbs compared to the 30lbs my hubby quickly shed. "What a gip!" I exclaimed - I gave up fruit for this?!

What we quickly realized as we entered Phase II and eventually tapered off (and gained all the weight back) was that our focus shouldn't only be in magically making the pounds disappear through diet and exercise. Don't all of use wish it would just melt away just because we're eating what the magazines tell us to and have the latest, greatest work out gear? The hard truth is that we put these lofty aspirations on our bodies without really understanding how it works.

The hard truth ladies is that our bodies are meant to be soft. No lie! Think about it, we were made to host a human being. What better cushion/protection for that growing baby than a squishy backside? We do NOT process sugar like our hubbies do. Their bodies are made for speed, agility and of course virility. They can process food a lot faster than we can as they're meant to be lean as they're built for "protection." Women instead are the gatherers, nurturers, and our bodies will go into "survival" mode if this role is put at risk. Translation: Get thin quick diets DO NOT work. Our bodies see the lack of food as a sign that it needs to stalk up for the winter, saving all that jiggly fat for the long haul, making it harder to burn. And what happens if we are successful at anti-jiggle and go back to normal eating? We gain it right back.

So instead of buying into the latest diet pill, let us explore what REALLY causes jiggle: Sugar.

Picture it! (Pauses dramatically, Sophia Petrillo style) - The Pancreas!

Whenever you dive into that second piece of Chocolate Turtle Cheesecake (come on, who hasn't?) the Pancreas cringes in fear. Excessive sugar intake causes the Pancreas to produce insulin in order to regulate this sweet party and keep your body's natural sugar intake at a respectable level. Also the liver and kidneys key in to help metabolize and/or absorb sugar. So what you consider to be that fun "Sugar High" that keeps you cramming for midterms or awake at for that 3pm presentation is really your body's organs going into a state of shock because its trying desperately to metabolize these empty calories, regulate your natural blood sugar into something the body can actually handle, and your organs become too overloaded by the task.

Oh - and did I mention that these organs also take vital nutrients away from the rest of your body in order to make all this happen? Many scientists have linked the leaching of Vitamin B as a cause of mental defects in adults in children as well as the leaching of calcium as the cause of early onset osteoporosis. And don't even get me started on tooth decay....

And where does the fat/jiggle come from? The body uses sugar by storing it for energy. But what happens when excessive amounts of sugar are stockpiled in the body? It goes into the tissue as storage. Voila! Fat!

The result? Too much sugar wears your body down resulting in diabetes, pancreatic cancer and liver disease as well as other ailments.

So does this mean that there's no hope for all of us Sugar addicts out there?

In my quest to find out, I've decided to give up processed sugar and excessively sweet - empty-calorie foods. This is NOT an easy task.

In the beginning, like any addict, I had to detox. I suffered from headaches, body aches and some definite crankiness. (Cue hubby nodding in agreement). It wasn't pretty. This little adventure began in November of last year. For 4 weeks I stayed strong. And after the initial shock, I actually loved the results! I started to see that ugly jiggle in my stomach and thighs disappear (this is without exercise, mind you) and my waist started to whittle away to the curvaceous, pre-baby me I remembered. I was so excited!

And then the holidays hit. Evil, stupid, mean, sugar-infused holidays! (stomps foot!)

Don't get me wrong. I LOOVE the holidays and all the spiritual meaning and lovely family time that goes with it. But the infernal inclusion of sweets and baking had a negative effect on my newly detoxed body. The jiggle came running back - look out St. Nick! - as quickly as my waist snapped back into its square shape. Sadness...I was also so sleepy all of a sudden and didn't want to do anything. My thoughts were also fuzzy and disoriented. Oh, and I got the worst flu that I can remember! Needless to say, I liked a Sweeter, Sugar-less me more.

So the holidays showed me the true benefit of a Sugar-free or low-sugar lifestyle. I love having more energy! I also love being less squishy! No one wants a wife that can also be a squeaker toy - do they??

So I encourage all of you to put that cookie dough ice cream right now! Come on...let it go....there you go. Reach for that banana or apple now...even try slapping some peanut butter on it. Its still good for you and the complex carbohydrates are a GOOD thing as it helps to process sugar slower, allowing your organs to catch up as it metabolizes. Also all that added fiber is awesome for digestion and weight loss.

I'll share more about my adventure and helpful tips as it ensues...wishing you a sweeter you in 2011!

~The Domestic Goddess

Kitchen Blessings

2011-01-10T19:45:00.000-08:00

Dear Goddesses in Training,

Lately I've been kicking up some dust in my kitchen! For a while I've been in a cooking funk - too tired and uninspired to do anything but look at preparing a meal as another pile of dishes. In turn, my family was eating out way too much and gaining much more than we expected - especially with the holidays! Ugh, why is December one big sugar high?!

When I was a kid I ate pretty well. My Grandma Bina worked for the government as a nutritionist, specializing in assisting young mothers about how to prepare economical, healthy food. Of course the 'ol battle axe couldn't help bringing her work home with her. So as I would eat anything I would hear, "Eat these carrots - they're good for your eyes...Eat this banana its good for potassium..." Everything was good for something!

As an adult, I still hear my Grandma in my head. However, her voice battles with the part of me that whines "Ugh, but making something 'good' takes sooo much time!!!"

Truth is, there is no truth to this. Healthy food need not be difficult. It is us that needs to get up off the floor, brush off the tantrum, and work smarter, not harder, at eating healthy.

With the beginning of the New Year, I am sure many of you have made the infamous resolution to be healthier and lose weight. I can tell you that I never promise anything I can't deliver - especially to myself! Instead, I've made a CHANGE of thought - to THINK of my time in the kitchen as a daily blessing for my familia. So as I enter my kitchen every morning I ask myself (without any whine), "What can I do today to bless my family using the tools that I have here?"

I can tell you that after making this change this week, I no longer look at cooking as a chore. Instead its something that blesses me just as much as my family. Its fun and I can be creative with new flavors and healthy ingredients. I now smell new produce and try to experience these items as I hope my family does - with awe and appreciation. Why not think of food as a healthy blessing instead of a chore? Its what fuels our bodies and minds - and can bring joy to the ordinary day if we look at it as an adventure.

So with this in mind, I thought I'd share one of my favorite, quick and healthy recipes that kicks up the typical meal up about 15 notches. Enjoy ONE GREAT HEALTHY MEAL with your family tonight!

SLOW SIMMERED SPAGHETTI & MEATBALLS

Step 1: Grocery List

MEAT SECTION:
24 Frozen Turkey Meatballs (I usually buy 2 packages of the Honeysuckle brand)

VEGETABLE SECTION:
1 Onion- Helpful Hint: Always buy Yellow/Spanish Onions. They won't make you tear up when you chop them and are sweet, not so oniony in favor.
1 Head of Garlic
Salad ingredients - A salad compliments this meal perfectly!

CANNED SECTION:
2 15oz cans of Crushed Tomatoes
1 14.5 can of Stewed Tomatoes

FROM THE FRIDGE/PANTRY: (If you don't have these items in stock, make them a part of your regular pantry items)

Pam (Preferably Olive or Canola Oil)
Basil
Oregano
Red Pepper Flakes (Optional- if you prefer spicy)
Salt & Pepper

Step 2: Prepare!

INGREDIENTS:
2 cans Crushed Tomatoes
1 can Stewed Tomatoes
1 cup Chopped Onion
1 Tbsp Minced Garlic
1 Tsp Basil
1 Tsp Oregano
1/2 Pepper Flakes (Optional)
24 Frozen Turkey Meatballs

PREPARATION:
*Spray inside of crock pot with pam to prevent stickage.

1.) Pour all tomato products in slow cooker/crock pot.
2.) Add onion, garlic and seasoning, stir well.
3.) Add still frozen meatballs and stir to mix well, making sure all meatballs are covered with sauce.
4.) Set crock pot on low for 7-8 hours.
5.) Boil spaghetti according to package instructions. Serve and enjoy!

Leftover Magic: These make outstanding meatball sandwiches!! Hint: you can also pile any leftover salad on top with parmesan cheese (a great source of calcium).

Many Meal Blessings to your and yours...

~The Domestic Goddess

Mommy Manic Monday!

2010-11-08T06:41:00.000-08:00

Hello Goddesses in Training,

Ohh, the life of a Mom (throws back of hand against forehead). It's 8:52am and I've already cleaned the Parthenon, taken the first woodland imp to scribe school and started beating out the stains on last week's togas. Whew, I'm tired already! And there are still how many more hours left in my work day? Oh, yeah, right...there is no end to my work day.

For those Moms out there who never seem to stop - I feel your pain. My body actually aches at the end of the day after the myriad of mess I've cleaned, the boggle of boo-boos I've kissed and the sea of sewing I do for my "regular" job. When you're in the thick of it, it DOES seem never ending.

But never fear - The Goddess is to the Rescue!

I have bequeathed Mondays as (in big booming voice): Mommy Manic Mondays!

Here we'll be able to discuss all things Mom. What are we doing right, what we feel we're doing wrong, stress relievers, to do lists, tips to maintain sanity, etc. And venting - for sure!

So Moms (or parents in general), get ready! Leave a comment/question about your job as the CFO (Chief Family Officer) of your household. What's it like? What do you love most? What do you most want to change? What tips/tricks do you have up your sleeve?

For me, the best stress reliever is not getting stressed. Now, my husband would roll his eyes at me for saying that as I am the Queen of Stress. When I am overwhelmed I am a bear to live with. Don't come in my cave if you see laundry flying, bags being packed, kids running - Mama is on the loose!

So I've made a mental promise to stop being stressed. Impossible you ask? Uh, yes - totally. But I promise to TRY to be:

COOL. When I'm stressed I'm a total hot-head. Angry at the world and blaming all around me for getting me to that point of total eruption (cue lightning and thunderbolts). So my promise is to take a breath - or 15 - and close my eyes and think. So often when we are rushed we allow sanity to take a sabbatical. Why is that? I am totally level headed when there's an accident or someone is bleeding. Like a doctor, I know just what to do and nothing phases me. But when it comes to being late to an appointment and loading everything up I lose all control. Bad Goddess, bad! I promise to use not loose my brain.
CALM. Ugh, my poor husband. He takes on so much. Too often I throw my hands up in the air and he has to listen to my rambling complaints about how stressed I feel. Its totally true of course, but getting wrapped up in the feeling of being stressed does nothing to relieve it. Instead I think it would be better to express, not repress, but also to process. Think to myself: "Ok, self. That feeling sucked. What can we do to avoid it next time?"
COLLECT. So many times I rush from task to task, switching hats like most switch on a light. Its whip-lash inducing and completely preventable. I need to get my life in order, as much as I can, in advance of my day to day. Flylady tells her Flybabies to get ready for tomorrow today. So I need to take my personal calendar very seriously and plan things out 1,2,5 days ahead = to save my head!

So ladies, I hope these little musing on Mondays will help us both. Growing humans while we grow ourselves is an incredibly complex journey. More often then not we feel like kids too, figuring things out as they come to us. Not one of us has it perfect, but together maybe we can feel alright and empowered to do it again tomorrow.

~The Domestic Goddess

My Not-So Fabulous Life

2010-11-04T06:19:00.000-07:00

Hello again Goddesses in Training!!

I am sad to report that I have not been a good Goddess. I haven't blogged in ages! I wish I could tell you that I've been secreted away on an extravagant cruise around the world - but who am I kidding? I've been busy with what keeps us all busy - life!

Over the last few months a lot has changed. We had many challenges come our way and have struggled over the summer to get back to a comfortable place. Now things have turned the corner and we are better. Not perfect, but a lot better. I've started teaching and my Techno-Hubby is happy in a new job. Yea!

A challenge that I've dealt with a lot over the past few months is the strange duality that I live in. As many of you may already know, I work in the fashion industry. As I am in the "fabulous" business, there is a strong perception that somehow my everyday life is glamorous. Ha! If only! As a matter of fact, (for example) I just finished cleaning up after my dog, who apparently was not done with his morning walk, if you get my drift - how's that for fabulous? Don't worry, I washed my hands...LOL But today is no different from any other. My fabulous job has no effect on whether the laundry gets done or who puts butt paste on the baby. In fact, it just adds to the chaos and hilariosity of my life. Example: Ever try changing a wiggling toddler's diaper in an evening gown? Yeah, not fun. Especially if he decides to play the part of a little cherub fountain.

I've had several people ask me how I do it all. Honestly, I have NO idea. I take everything day to day, moment by moment. Often times my days are quite schizophrenic with some strong dis-associative patterns! I switch gears so often my head spins and I have been known to start something and then become so distracted that I have to stop and think "what was I doing?!" Its annoying to say the least. Sometimes I worry that I have early on-set Alzheimer's. But then I remember, no I just have Everyday On-set Craziness.

Oh, and who pays the price for this crazy gear switching? My house!! Poor little house. (tear) It takes so much abuse from me and my family. I swear I can clean the living room and within a second, my little tazmanian devils swoop in and it was worse than it was before. How do they do that so fast and how can I use their gift for good, not evil? I've tried making lists, giving everyone jobs. This works for about 3 days. And then some new project comes my way and without someone to man the ship, we sink.

So my question to you, dear Goddesses in Training, is: How do you keep your day organized? What do you do to keep the chaos away??

Here are a few things that I have used that really do work to keep me on track. I hope you will find them as fabulous as I do!

Flylady. Oh, how I LOVE Flylady! I can tell you that using her system really does work. And I love how there is no pressure to do everything perfectly. After all, who's perfect? She encourages us busy moms to stay on track, but knows there will be mess ups here and there. My favorite advice is "even housework done incorrectly blesses your family" - my OCD brain heals a little bit as I say this to myself while trying to get everything done.
Gmail. I am a total Gmail convert. It's amazing at keeping me organized. I love all the different tools available like GoogleCal (love those reminder pop-ups/emails!), Google Reader (subscribe to Domestic Goddess Lessons!) and GoogleVoice. Oooh and GoogleDocs! Its like having a personal assistant at your fingertips!
Green bags. It seems like everyone has these now. I truly adore them. I use them for my grocery shopping, of course, but also for long trips with the family. I bought some really cute ones from the Disney Store and now each one of my children have their own character so we know instantly which one is their bag. They pack their favorite toys, clothes, and entertainment with them so they have everything on hand when they need it. I also use them to organize myself while I'm teaching. As I teach classes that are dramatically different from one another, I have a bag for each one. That way I have my rosters, notes, supplies and textbooks right where I need them.
Colored Laundry Baskets. Do you struggle daily with the Laundry Monster? Malicious one, that one! I fight him on a daily basis with 5 people's wardrobes to keep up with. But I take my personal stylist duties seriously so I must make sure that everyone has their couture at their fingertips - heaven forbid that my daughter doesn't have her Hannah Montana shirt! So I've devised a way for my kids to help me out. In our laundry area I place a white, off white, blue and black basket. Each child has their own laundry day and is responsible for bringing their clothes downstairs and sorting them. The different colored baskets helps them to know where to sort. White=Whites, Off White=Lights, Blue=Colors, Black=Jeans/Darks. This system seems to work well, when we keep it. LOL I also have one big basket for linens, which have their own laundry day too.

These are but a few things that I use to keep me organized. Of course, they are not a formula for a fool proof day, but they help when things get too overwhelming.

I'm off to my fabulous laundry pile. Have a crazy one!

The Domestic Goddess

The Crunch on Meal Planning

2010-02-27T10:06:00.000-08:00

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Hello Goddesses in Training,

When I was first married, grocery shopping was a free for all. My hubby would run from one corner of the store to the other stuffing snacks and cereal into the cart. My first thought was, really? This is what you want us to eat?

Growing into a relationship means more than staring longingly into your lover's eyes for hours on end. It also means bringing what you know into the picture and longingly staring at the details that will make the day to day work. This is exceptionally important when it comes to food, but like anything else in a relationship, it can take some compromise.

Its no secret that the key to a man's heart is through his stomach. Unfortunately my hubby's key was surrounded by so much junk food and excess I had a hard time finding it it! As a teenager and later in college he was stocked full of chips, sweets and way too much Captain Crunch.

My experience, however was very different. Having grown up with few resources at our disposal, I was rarely allowed sweets and our cereal consisted only of Raisin Bran. Crazy I know! But later we worked up to Apple Cinnamon Cheerios. In all honesty, a rockin' dinner at home consisted of french fries and ketchup. I thought my Mom was the coolest in the world for allowing us to have that for dinner! But coolness aside, the experience of not having a lot made me appreciate the importance of having a balanced meal, but also conserving and saving resources in the process.

So the one of my newlywed duties was to reel in Mr. Crunch and think about what our weekly meal menus would look like. It was hard at first, but once we started to share what we loved to eat, as well as made meals that we enjoyed it became easier. And, later when kids came into the picture the menu changed again. There was yet another change when we decided to change our diet to include healthier ingredients. All of these things are important in developing the plan together.

So here are some steps to get you going in this process. Don't be intimidated, make this fun!

Make a list of the foods you love. Stuff you loved when you were a kid, things that either of you prepare that make you happy, etc.
Write down the recipes. I honestly don't like to do this as I measure everything as I cook. But trust me, its a vital step. Also, if there is something that your spouse loves, but you don't know how to make (for me it was a casserole/Shepard's Pie), then find those recipes and keep them in your arsenal. Check out my ONE GREAT MEAL Series if you need some ideas.
Put together a simple menu worksheet that you can print out. This is something I found on Healthymenumailer.com and is easy and useful: http://www.healthymenumailer.com/ebooks/weekly-meal-plan.pdf. I also use GoogleCal quite extensively and love its reminder feature because it reminds me everyday of whats to be served that day - plus its eco-friendly!
Think about your schedule. What events do you have going on next week? Is there a recurring event that happens every Wednesday? Write that down on your menu to remind you that time might be tight that night so it might work best if you took turns cooking that day or just order in.
Pick a theme for each night. Kids especially love this! For us, for example, we alternate our Friday menus between Pizza Night and Chili Dog Nite. Its something that everyone looks forward to each week. Write that down too.
After all this is together, just choose what you would like to have and write it all down in the appropriate day/box. Don't forget to plan all meals, including snacks! Snacking is an important part of healthy weight as long as you plan healthy ones.
Next look at the recipes for the week. Check out the ingredients in each one and make a grocery list based upon whats in the recipes. A helpful resource is: http://www.mygrocerychecklist.com/
Once you have an established menu and grocery list for that week, keep it! Make all this effort work for you in the future by using the week's menu again, alternating it with new ones.

Tada! See, its not hard. And initially it can be time consuming, but after a while, its a breeze. Not to mention you will find that you will use everything you buy, saving money while not throwing food away. I look at this task as a way to love my family without their realization. I'm putting a little love in their tummy.

Enjoy!

-The Domestic Goddess

ONE GREAT MEAL: Big Sis's Arroz Con Pollo Recipe

2010-02-26T08:49:00.000-08:00

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Hello Goddesses in Training!

I apologize for my prolonged absence. The Goddess has been off her throne, picking up togas, running after Cupid, giving Pegasus a bath...not to mention mopping the marble floors. The Parthenon does not clean itself!

I have had many requests for menus/menu planning tools. Its not so hard ladies, and I will post these tools this week. However, I realized I have not posted any new recipes this year in my ONE GREAT MEAL series! Sorry about that!

In order to make this worth the wait, I thought I would dedicate this post to my Big Sis. A Goddess in her own right, we learned and shared our cooking experiences with each other as we grew into Goddesshood. This is a recipe she graciously shared with me many years ago and I've added my own spin on it here and there. It is a HUGE hit every time I serve it! Just last week I made a double recipe, hoping to have leftovers, only to discover there was nothing left! My Sis is an absolute treasure and I am sure you will love her recipe.

Big Sis's Arroz Con Pollo

Step 1: Grocery List

MEAT SECTION:

1 lb Chicken Tenders-Helpful Hints: I use chicken tenders for this recipe as I find they are easier to use/cut into sections. The original recipe called for bone-in chicken. Either one is very tasty!

VEGETABLE SECTION:

1 Onion- Helpful Hint: Always buy Yellow/Spanish Onions. They won't make you tear up when you chop them and are sweet, not so oniony in favor.
1 Head of Garlic - You may use fresh garlic/powdered, which ever is easier for you/what you have on hand.

FROM THE FRIDGE/PANTRY: (If you don't have these items in stock, make them a part of your regular pantry items)

Cooking Oil - Which ever you have on hand/prefer
Salt & Pepper
Ground Cumin
Garlic Powder - or you can use fresh garlic
Caldo de Pollo - You can find this in the Hispanic foods/spices section at your local grocery store or where the chicken bullion cubes are, usually in the soup aisle.
1 Small Can Tomato Sauce
1 Cup Long Grain White Rice

Step 2: Prepare!

INGREDIENTS:

2-3 tbsp Cooking Oil
1 LB Chicken Tenders, Cut into cubes
1 Cup Long Grain White Rice
1 Can Tomato Sauce
2 1/2 Cups Water
1/4 Onion, sliced
3-4 Cloves Garlic or 1 tsp Garlic Powder
1 tsp Ground Cumin
3 tsp Caldo de Pollo (or 3 bullion cubes)
Salt & Pepper to taste

PREPARATION:

In stainless steel skillet/pan place oil and warm at med-high heat. Brown chicken until golden. I actually place the whole tenders in the pan and then roughly cut them into pieces rt before they are completely cooked. Saves me time and dishes. However don't do this if you are using a tephlon/non-stick pan.
Add rice and brown until it smells like popcorn and begins to brown. Add oil if rice and chicken become difficult to stir. There will be a golden crust on the bottom of the pan that will soak up into the dish, making it taste wonderful. Add onions and cook for 1 minute. If you are using fresh garlic, add it with the onions,
Add tomato sauce. The pan will sizzle, so step back. Also add water and all spices. Stir.
Cover and lower heat. Check the rice periodically as it simmers. If the water level goes down and the rice is not ready, add a little more. I prefer my rice to be tender and juicy so I usually end up doing this toward the end. It should take about 15 minutes and then viola! Deliciousness!

~The Domestic Goddess

Your Right to Romance!

2010-01-14T23:48:00.000-08:00

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Dear Goddesses in Training,

I was having a conversation with my oldest and dearest friend the other day and she dropped some insight on me. As a newlywed she is trying to keep the romance alive. After 7 years of marriage I had to admit to her that romance is the last thing on my mind some days. She shared with me a profound, simple way to keep the passion alive.

The key to romance, surprisingly, is one question: "What have you done for your marriage today?"

My friend went on to tell me that she asks her husband, and herself, this question everyday. What a great idea! Through a daily reminder, the importance of showing our love for our mate is renewed.

With Valentine's Day but a month away, I encourage all of you to ask yourself and your love this question. Whereas the holiday is a great motivator, it shouldn't be another year before you receive flowers or you shower your lover with attention. They say if you do something for 30 days, it becomes habit. What better habit is there then falling in love?

Vote for your right to romance today!

Whether it be watching your guy play basketball, or holding hands as you watch a movie, do something that reminds you of why you fell in love in the first place. A day should never slip by where you haven't embraced or shared a sweet kiss. Put the kids to bed. Put the whiny dog outside. Love each other! Today is the best day to do it.

As an added incentive, check back with me and post what you've done for your marriage today in the comments section. Inspire others while you ignite passion in your life.

Happy Loving!

~The Domestic Goddess

We are the Dreamers of Dreams

2010-01-14T08:31:00.000-08:00

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Dear Goddesses in Training,

As adults we lose a lot of things. Our keys. The cellphone. Even our minds. But there is one important thing that escapes us when we finally step over the threshold into adulthood: the ability to dream.

Our everyday lives are filled with responsibility. Whether it be to our families and/or our careers, daily life is a lesson in balance and, yes, patience. At 5 I remember wishing with childlike wonder to be a dancer. Not just any dancer, but a back-up dancer! Not a lofty dream, I suppose, but I could close my eyes and picture myself dancing along side Michael Jackson, Madonna and even Janet Jackson (hey, it was the 80's!). I would sit with baited breath as I watched their music videos, memorizing every step. I still remember the steps to "Love is a Battlefield" by Pat Benatar.

But somehow along this crazy show we call life, I lost that dream. Funny how we associate losing our dreams as finally becoming an adult. Is this something we should really be proud of?

I say we throw adulthood out the door if it means losing what makes us happy! I call a revolt to all those who say that dreams aren't possible and are child-like because they are supposedly unachievable.

But how do we step back into the dreaming?

I suggest watching/reading the Dream Manual: Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory. The Gene Wilder version, please. Yes this movie is a kids favorite, but if you watch and actually listen, Mr. Wonka has some pearls of wisdom.

"A Snozzberry? Who ever heard of a Snozzberry?!" Veruca Salt says with contempt.

"We are the music makers and we are the dreamers of dreams." Wonka replies.

Easily my favorite movie quote of all time. Because it is a definitive reaction to the contempt that most people have for those who dare to step out of the ordinary.

As a teen I dreamed of making beautiful clothes. My mother had the same dream as a teenager and became an amazing seamstress. She could easily see an outfit in a magazine and be wearing it the next day. I would help her clip out pattern pieces and pin fabric. I was amazed at what she could do. She taught me some here and there and I secretly dreamed of being a fashion designer. I would sketch in notebooks and in the margins of my paper when I was supposed to be taking notes in class. But I never really told anyone. I was afraid if I did they would laugh at me or ridicule what I wanted to do.

"Fashion? Are you crazy? How are you going to make a living doing that?"

So I put my dream safely away where it couldn't be touched and moved on with my life. I chose to go into Psychology because I liked helping people, had a knack for it, and it promised to be financially lucrative in my adult years. In college I studied, but it really wasn't a huge challenge for me. When I graduated I was already working as a counselor in a homeless shelter for children. But graduation seemed to have no joy for me somehow. My husband saw that I was unhappy and asked me what I really wanted to do. It was then that I took my dream out of my hope chest and shared it with him.

He was so supportive! Immediately he researched schools that I could go to. His support created an excitement and a hope in me that hadn't been there before. I was accepted to FIDM in Los Angeles (where Project Runway was filmed last season), one of the most prestigious fashion schools on the west coast. I was elated! We planned where we would live and he made inquiries into video game design schools as well - we might as well go for BOTH our dreams at the same time, right?!

But then the floor broke beneath our feet. We found out we were pregnant with our first child. Whereas I was so happy to be pregnant, I had to put my feet back on the ground and think like an adult. I had to be responsible and think about how we would support our family. I continued to work with children and non-profits. The work didn't pay a lot, but it was enough to keep us on our feet. My husband worked odd jobs and later a non-profit as well.

Five years later we found ourselves with 2 children and living the daily balance act. But we still dreamed. One day a co-worker told me she was going to design school. I was immediately interested and found out the school, IADT, was new in San Antonio and offered a degree in Fashion Design & Merchandising. I told my hubby about it that evening and his immediate response was "You have to do this. If I have to work 5 jobs, I don't care. You have to fulfill your dream."

That night I called the school and set up a tour. I was petrified of this opportunity. What if I was the oldest person in my classes? What if I didn't have the talent or the drive to do this now? I felt like an old fogie, an impostor. How could I possibly do this after being out of the game for so long? I was pushing 30! How could I start all over? Then I realized that all my fears were crazy. What if I didn't do this? What if I looked back at 60 and regret?

Right after the tour, I found myself a student again. The next two years were so fulfilling. I was bursting to go to class. Hungry to create. My instructors saw my enthusiasm and talent and supported me. I met some truly wonderful students who are now some of my closet friends. My husband said it was the happiest he had seen me in years! And even when I found out we were pregnant with our third baby, I wouldn't stop going. I worked through pain, contractions, and even came back to class a week after my son was born. Nothing could take me away from my dream again.

I graduated last November. I was so scared that my choice would hurt my family. What do I do now? What happens next? But my dream had wings. Suddenly I found myself being asked to be in several fashion shows and I took on clients as a Freelance Fashion Designer. Now the work won't stop coming - and I couldn't be happier.

And as a parent I must tell you that my children are so blessed to have parents who dream. Now they look at life without obstacles and it is our hope that watching us through this journey, and seeing our success, will enable them to keep that ability to see outside of life's boundaries and work for something more.

So dreaming is not impossible. Like anything else, it is a lesson in perseverance and knowing exactly what you really want. Dare to do it. Dare to go for what will make you happy. In the end the effort you put forth is not unlike that which you use to do a 'regular' job. Think of all the hours you put into data entry or filling out paperwork. Its the same. Only you're doing what excites you.

So what is your dream? A better question: What are you doing to fulfill your dream today?

~The Domestic Goddess

My Avalanche

2010-01-09T09:31:00.000-08:00

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Dear Goddesses in Training,

You ever have one of those weeks where all the planets align, the sun is shining, the birdies are singing and everything goes...wrong?

What if this didn't just happen in one day, one week or one month? What if this was your YEAR?

The Goddess' 2009 was one of those years. In December 2008, when most people are in anticipation of stepping into a new year, my family was in deep doo doo. My hubby had just been laid off, I was not working, and we found out we were pregnant. Uh, oh. what now?

The coming year brought even more joy as we discovered that my pregnancy was wrought with turmoil as my baby kept wanting to come early. Having found a job as a counselor at a children's shelter to help pay the bills, I forced myself to leave my job as the stress made my condition worse. Weekly shots and bed rest did nothing to hinder my child's impatience to enter the world.

Soon after my husband's beloved grandmother passed away and we were in deep mourning for a long time. The stress became too much and six weeks before my due date I was induced due to my organs shutting down and a decreased fetal heart rate. At that time my two older children were terrified that Mommy wouldn't come home. After seeing their great-grandmother never leave the hospital, it was a valid fear for them. But things worked out fine and eventually I was discharged in good health and the baby came home from the NICU a week later.

Things started to look up as my hubby got a great new job. We were excited for a fresh start and anticipated a shift in our lives, a movement toward the positive.

Then, on my husband's first day of work, the baby turned blue and stopped breathing.

Terrified, I rushed him to the hospital in our tiny car and begged my children to play with him, lift his tiny arms, scream in his face, anything to keep him breathing. For the next few weeks I sat by my baby's bedside as he went under spinal taps, endless IVs and drugs, antibiotics and an eventual IV in his head as the rest of his veins collapsed. He was diagnosed with pneumonia and later we discovered that seizures were causing him to stop breathing. When we finally brought him home he was constantly on an apnea monitor and a strict schedule of anti-seizure meds.

And then my father died. He had been sick and in and out of the hospital for some time. But my family didn't expect this. It was too much. Too much stress, too much terror. Just too much.

It is in these moments where we stop and consider why we keep on going. Why should we when things get so bad? After all, even the Goddess isn't made of stone. How on earth do we survive?

This December, as we sat perched on a new year, things were different for my family. We were all of a sudden finding great joy and peace. I cannot tell you if the shift happened all of a sudden or that we found clarity. For survival doesn't just happen. Its an on-going process.

My mother always told me that we are all stronger than we think we are. When my husband and I look back on 2009 we can't help but sigh and smile. Because we did it. We stayed strong. And realizing how much we DID accomplish is what keeps us going and what will enable us to handle whatever else Murphy's Law decides to throw at us.

Last year my husband made a name for himself in the social media world. He found his niche and let his expertise and incredible intellect shine into this realm. I am so proud of him for taking lemons and making a new stand in his life. He established his own company with a group of freelancers/those who were also laid off. With their talent and know-how they got a barrage of interest. Now with a successful pod-cast, Tech in Twenty, he is kicking technical butt!

As for the Goddess, I finally finished my fashion design degree. It took a lot of strength on my part to continue attending classes while haphazardly pregnant. However, with the support of my family and friends I pulled through and completed my program in November 2009. Now as a Freelance Fashion Designer I have started my own company, Geisha Inc. I am constantly working and taking care of my 3 children (the baby, now 7 months old, is seizure free!)

Throughout this journey I have learned that no matter what happens year to year, it is how we handle the delicate balance of our lives and our dreams that sustains us when times are hard. No one will tell you that life is easy, but its definitely interesting. Take the terror with the terrific. Smile though your heart is breaking, as the song says. Find your joy and allow yourself to experience it no matter what. It is my baby's easy smile that always keeps me going. Because no matter what happened last year, what we endured made that little bit of happiness possible. And that is what makes moving forward worth it.

Here's to 2010...

~The Domestic Goddess

OH BABY! - What You DON'T Expect When You're Expecting

2010-01-08T07:15:00.000-08:00

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Dear Goddesses in Training,

Six years and ten months ago my life took a definite sci fi twist.

(Cue spooky music)

It was April Fool's Day. I can tell you that I had kind of known this was coming for a while. Out of fear I had ignored this change. I thought that if I did, it would go away. But no. The feeling was still there no matter what I did. I can't think of any other way to explain it other than this: I felt occupied.

Something was totally different with the world and I knew it! Regardless, I found myself in the restroom of Walgreens (San Pedro) hurriedly taking the dreaded test that would change my life. Not the most ceremonious place to find out I was expecting, but then being pregnant was nothing like I expected.

I should have really paid attention to Alien and Species more.

Pregnancy, dear friends, is a lot different than what you've heard. From afar it seemed so magical and lovely. To glow like that must mean that an amazing thing is happening to your body. Better than a facial! However, I was to find that instead of being cast in the starring role of Glowing Mom, I was instead Kane from Alien. Later, my second and third pregnancy got even more interesting. More like Rosemary's Baby.

Truth is pregnancy is no picnic. You will be stretched to the limits, so to speak, and experience first hand all the morphing capabilities that a human body can do. It was amazing to me at first how sci-fi it all was! The scary thing was that no one told me about what would happen to my body. Most women describe child-bearing as a beautiful experience. A miracle that will bring big fluffy clouds and rainbows as you welcome a sweet baby into the world.

Ah, its not EXACTLY like that.

So for all you ladies out there who were like me and didn't have very many married/mothering friends and family to support you and give you the big scoop, this blog is for you.

Let me preface the rest of this blog by saying this is what I personally experienced. As a mother of three I have had 3 very different pregnancies and I am speaking from those experiences. This does not mean that these things will happen to you. Every pregnancy is different. I'm not a doctor after all, only a Goddess. And this info is just to prep you for what might happen. After all, motherhood is 80% Preparation!

What you DON'T expect when you're expecting:

The 'girls' change. The girls don't lie. In some women they even predict the weather. However to the close observer, they are a clear indication of pregnancy. According to the American Academy of Dermatology, Melasma is common in 70% of pregnant women. This condition, commonly known as the Mask of Pregnancy causes discoloration of the skin which is most common in those with darker skin tones. It may start with an enlarging of the nipples and carry on to include blotches on the face and body. Not to worry, this does go away after childbirth. Also, you should expect your breast size to change as your body prepares to lactate. Whether or not you choose to breastfeed, your body doesn't know any better. Your breasts will become fuller in appearance and you may even develop stretch marks on your chest. Toward the mid to end of pregnancy as your milk starts to produce you may also see a white creamy substance. This thick stuff is no cause for alarm. It just means that everything is working as it should. A world of caution: Do not try to express your milk or use a breast pump until after the baby is born. Doing so causes your uterus to contract and may bring on early labor.
There will be gorey moments. My hubby rushed me to the hospital when I experienced some bleeding. Spotting is normal, as are cramps. In fact, its not uncommon for women to think they've had a period when this happens. However trust your instincts and always call your doctor. This way there is documentation in your medical file about this or other occurrences. Your doctor should be able to recognize what is normal and what is cause for alarm. Also you will be picked and prodded at more than you could possibly imagine. I left my first pregnancy with no fear of needles if that gives you any indication. And you'll definitely be able to recognize which doctors and nurses know how to handle a speculum.
It will make you sick. To those of you that have not experienced the dreaded Morning Sickness, I envy you. With all 3 of my pregnancies I lost 5-10lbs in the first 2 months due to this dreaded milady. Its very common and actually has been shown to be a good thing as women who have nausea and vomiting are less likely to miscarry. I found that if I ate something every 2-2 1/2 hours I felt less nauseous. And believe me, you won't want to do this, but you have to! Weight loss is not a perk of pregnancy. Excessive loss can be dangerous for you and your baby. Remember, you're a host now. And your little guest will take nutrients from your body even if you're not putting any into it. That baby will do whatever it has to survive and your body will support it no matter how you take care of it. For example, if a prego mother doesn't ingest enough calcium, the baby will take it from her bones. So eat! I suggest taking peppermint, ginger and avoid protein smells like fish and meat to avoid feeling sick. Try fruit.
You will be ravenous. I have often explained to my girlfriends that the feelings you have in pregnancy are primal. Everything is intensified! For instance when you are tired, it will feel like you have never slept before in your entire life. And this is not once or twice, this is everyday. Especially in the early and late stages of pregnancy its not unusual to sleep 12 hours a day. Hunger is no different. Every couple of hours you will want to clean out the fridge or eat a whole gallon of ice cream. And yes, cravings do get weird sometimes, but not always. I craved tomatoes through all 3 of my prego panics. And the last one I swore would leave me a vegetarian as I hated the smell or sight of meat or chicken.
There will be scars. I was very proud when my OB said 'Wow! You have no stretchmarks' when I went in for my 8 month check up with my first child. However, no one was kind enough to explain the Great Baby Drop. When you arrive at the blessed end of your prego journey, your baby will drop low on your hips, basically engaging itself in the pelvis. This happens very suddenly, sometimes overnight, stretching your skin too quickly for it to recover. To avoid 'the marks of a real woman' I suggest wearing a pregnancy support. This will keep your belly up and give you the much needed support it needs in these times of sudden change. Many of my friends and family swore by cocoa butter as well, but I can honestly say I tried it and it didn't help when it came to the baby dropping. There are many women who never get stretch marks. Bless you. You were blessed with good genes as women whose mothers did not get them are less likely to get them either. Thanks Mom. Weight gain plays a factor as well. Look out for marks on your chest and legs if you've been hitting the ice cream and pickles too hard.
Belly Bummers. For those of you entering your second pregnancy and you are appalled at how pregnant you appear all of a sudden, this is normal. In your first pregnancy your little monster made himself at home. You might say he/she broke you in. Now your muscles aren't tight and raw like they used to be. Like a rubber band used one too many times, your body will stretch a lot easier now.
Your feet will grow. I experienced this with all three of my pregnancies. Lets just say I'm a little woman with huge feet now. I haven't heard of a lot of women complaining of this symptom, but its surely one of the most interesting things I experienced. The aptly named pregnancy hormone relaxin, which loosens the joints around your pelvis so your baby can make his way down the birth canal, also loosens the ligaments in your feet, causing the foot bones to spread. Your foot bones aren't actually growing — it's just that the ligaments that hold these 26 bones together aren't as tight as they were.

In the end, the clouds will part and the sun will rise. Pregnancy is not all bad. Feeling the baby kick, while one of the most weird feelings at first, is lovely after a while. You feel close and connected with the little being inside you. After my daughter was born I actually missed being pregnant, believe it or not.

So despite how obscure it may feel or how much of a sacrifice it is to share your body, there is something bigger coming. A grand finale. A baby! And that little guy or gal is the little rainbow that matters in the end.

~The Domestic Goddess

New Year -Oh Baby!

2010-01-05T13:25:00.000-08:00

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Dear Goddesses in Training,

Yes ladies, the new year is upon us. Many of you I am sure have already made resolutions. And surely the ball dropped on those suckers faster than Dick Clark can hit a button. Frankly, I don't believe in resolutions. They are made up of empty promises, wishes we have to tell ourselves to fulfill to be better people, better employees, better parents. But the truth is that if these things don't happen, its no big deal. So you didn't lose those last 10 pounds. So you didn't clean out the closet under the stairs. Perhaps the new year has something more important for you to accomplish...you never know where time will take you!

This year has already been life changing for several of my closest friends. With the birth of the new year came news of the birth or impending birth of new additions to their families. As an (cough, cough) accomplished mother of three I am often asked for my take on this major life spin. In honor of the struggle and immense shift their year will take I will be checking in with tips and tricks of the trade that I like to call the OH BABY series.

And for those of you not yet expending and expanding, no problem. The Goddess will continue with the ONE GREAT MEAL series as well as some other tasty and trendy topics this year.

Here's to Z(esty) E(veryday) kN(owledge) in 2010!

~The Domestic Goddess

100 Blogs in 100 Days - AHHHH!

2010-01-04T11:01:00.000-08:00

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Dear Goddesses in Training,

For those of you clamoring for more Goddess, the Goddess has heard your shout to the heavens!

In conjunction with the Daily Slackr (a.k.a Luis Sandoval, Jr./a.k.a. Social Media Maven/a.k.a My Hubby) I will be participating in the 100 Day Blogging Challenge. Being that its already January 4th, I'm a little behind.

So here's to more knowledge, more sharing and more Goddess in the new year!

Sex & Socks

2009-12-18T06:41:00.001-08:00

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Dear Goddesses in Training,

Let me preface this by saying this post is not for you. You will enjoy reading it, no doubt. But perhaps this is something you should instead leave open in your internet browser when you know your man will be using the computer. Or better yet. Don't play games, email him the link. Trust me. The Goddess knows what she's talking about. This post may change your life.

When we were in college my husband, then boyfriend, used to clean his dorm shower with a toothbrush. Also during that time he did his own laundry and made it a ritual to shop and stock his fridge in case company would come over, as well as kept his room clean and orderly.

Of all of this activity I can only say - man, was that hot!

It is a little known secret that cleanliness is close to sexiness. No lie. The Goddess wouldn't fool you. Cleanliness does effect your love life. Don't believe me? How ready are you for your man to come home after you've spent the day picking up an endless amount of his socks? Or better yet how excited are you after spending a day at the office to come home to dishes in the sink and stuff stuck to the counter tops? Haven't you noticed that most guys' apartments in romantic movies are clean? The reason: Slobs don't get any.

For women, our homes are are extensions of ourselves. Think of it as the proverbial man's truck. You guys get all neurotic when we eat while sitting on your leather interior, but we feel the same way when you throw your underwear on the floor of our bathrooms. We too want our space to be respected.

When we see that a man can clean up after himself it tells us:

He cares about the little things - as women we spend the majority of our lives thinking about the little things, the details that really do matter to us and our loved ones. For example, does your husband need the fancy quadruple blade razors when the double blades work just as well? No. But its that little detail that will make his morning better.
He doesn't need me - Most men complain that girls love bad boys. This isn't necessarily true. We love men that are independent and don't necessarily need us to take care of them. That motorcycle isn't just dangerous because its a motorcycle, its a mode of transportation that is driven by a man who is in complete control of where its going. A man who is control allows us to let our hair down and enjoy the ride. There's nothing sexier than that. We want to have fun too!
He's dependable - The man who can remember to take out the trash without our asking deserves a high seat on the Parthenon. This tells us that he cares about our home too and understands that he has a role in making it wonderful. This man is a good husband and father because his home and family are a priority to him.
He isn't selfish - Keeping a clean home is way hot because it shows that men care about something other than them self. As wives and mothers we think of others CONSTANTLY. To have that reciprocated by someone is amazing because it shows they can see outside of themselves to what others need. Namely, that we need help!

Now most men would ask - why does picking up after ourselves, or lack thereof, bother women so much? Let me break it down for you fellas...

When you're a slob, this is what we think:

You don't care about me. It may sound ridiculous to you, but its true. This is what we feel. When you leave your socks on the desk and under the kitchen table what does that communicate? Do you think they magically get put into the laundry and into your drawers nice and neat? And the 'I was going to wear them again' excuse is not a valid response. Stop jerking us around. Women are nurturing creatures. We want you to feel cherished and loved. But a doormat isn't nurturing, so don't treat us like something we're not in return for all we do for you.

In summation, we love you mens. You're awesome, don't get the Goddess wrong. As a woman I love taking care of the Parthenon and its inhabitants. But after a long day of picking up togas from my marble floor the last thing I want to do is play hide the scepter. Frankly it feels like one more thing on my To Do list. Ladies, I'm sure you've reacted the same way. Do you ever look at your man and think, 'Really? After all I did for you today, you want me to do more?'

However, if we are cherished and loved too, even in the simplest, cleanest way then our time and minds are freed from neurosis. When we feel freed from responsibility, we feel young and even sexy. And when our men show us that they care for our well-being/home, then the gloves seductively come off.

And for you fellas that didn't understand a word of this post, let me make it simple for you. Just remember this phrase: If you want us to drop the drawers, then clean up yours.

Happy cleaning!

~The Domestic Goddess

OH Baby: New Year, New Baby, New Stuff

2009-12-07T08:28:00.000-08:00

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Dear Goddesses in Training,

As a mother of three I am often asked by new Mommies what items they should have in their Motherhood Arsenal. The truth is I am always open to trying something new. I love finding new gadgets that will make my life easier, because lets face it - after 3 kids, I need easier!

Here are Goddess Gotta Haves for New/Expert Moms:

Avent Bottles. Yes Ladies, these really work. I've used them with all three of my babies and they have NEVER had problems with colic. A God-send in my opinion. Plus their tubby shape means they are klutz-proof and don't fall over easily when poked by a fussy baby. Also, they can easily be converted to a sippy cup w/Avent's Bottle Trainer kit that includes easy to grasp handles and a soft sippy cup spout - money saver! The only negative things I have ever heard about these bottles are: 1.) They leak. - not if you screw the lid on correctly and 2.) They are expensive - are they? Absolutely. Are they worth it? Absolutely.
Ameda Purely Yours Breast Pump with Carryall. For you breastfeeding and/or working Moms this is the pump for you! Wanting to give my child the best nutritious beginning I could, I made the decision to breastfeed. This was the most difficult task I've ever undertaken as a woman - honestly! And I tried countless high end, hospital grade breast pumps and found that this one was the very best. It never loses suction and is small enough to fit in a briefcase/large handbag. Also, the convenient cooler with inserts was handy.
Lansinoh HPA Lanolin. This was so essential as nursing can wreck havoc on 'the girls.' So soothing. I recommend using it after every nursing session and use a good nursing pad to prevent it from staining your clothing.
Nursing Pads. I would suggest either the Lansinoh or Platex brands as they are thin, yet still absorbent and don't show little bumps through your clothing.
Nursing tank tops. I discovered this with my last child. I say invest in these other than regular nursing bras. The reason why is because when you nurse, unless you purchase the fancy nursing tops that have inserts, you will leave a portion of your 'girls' for the world to see. I am a total supporter of openly nursing. However, having a little extra coverage made me feel more comfortable. With a nursing tank top, there is a shelf bra built in, meaning if you have to lift your top and unlatch the bra portion to feed your baby, there is still material covering your mid-section. After having a baby your body still won't be at its best, so this is good to cover the post baby jiggle.
Boppy. I loved mine! I had only one and it lasted me throughout 3 nursing babies. I simply bought a couple Boppy Covers and rotated them as needed. It is comfortable for both you and your baby. I suggest purchasing this before you go to the hospital to give birth and make it a part of your Birthing Bag that you will take with you to the hospital. Most lactation consultants (who will work with you post baby to assist you in getting the hang of nursing) don't have these available for use. Trust me, you will thank me for this suggestion! Plus the Boppy is handy later in assisting your child to learn to sit up on his/her own. Never leave them unsupervised of course.
Up & Up Diapers & Wipes. In my quest to find a diaper that was both soft and economical (I had 2 babies in diapers at one time!) I discovered the Target, now Up & Up brand diapers. These are durable, soft, don't often leak and are darn cute with their polka dot design. The wipes are great too as they are soft, come in lovely scents or unscented - though I always recommend using unscented/sensitive. Both my boys had very sensitive skin and were allergic to most diapers. These were also great for their needs.
Lion Heart Wipe Warmer. I actually received this as a gift when my first child was born. My first thought was, I don't need that! But I must say that it works beautifully during the colder months. Plus a warm wipe is essential for cleaning a baby's nose without hurting their delicate skin.
Boudreau's Butt Paste. This stuff is awesome! Most mommies I've spoken to swear by Dr. Smith's Diaper Ointment. I have tried both and can honestly say that Boudreau's works just as well as the pricier Dr. Smith's but is cheaper and comes in a more convenient bottom dispensing tube. Plus its just so fun to say "Bring me the butt paste!" BTW it now comes in a handy pump!
Fisher Price Precious Planets Projection Mobile. My first two children didn't have a mobile at all partially out of ignorance, partially because I couldn't find one I liked. However, now with the birth of my third baby I thought I would give it a whirl. I was amazed by this one! I am the kind of mom that likes a morphing gadget - give me more than one use please! This mobile projects images of safari animals, mother earth, etc. on to the underside of the mobile umbrella. When your baby reaches the point where they can sit up/pull up and you have to drop the crib mattress down a peg or two, the mobile portion is removable, allowing for the projection to stream out onto the ceiling. So cool! Plus it plays three types of music - Bach, animal sounds, heartbeat. It also comes with a remote so you don't stir your little one if it needs to be reset. Frankly, I've never had to as my baby falls asleep before the 15 minute playtime is over. A must for teaching your baby to fall asleep without nursing, rocking, etc.
Lavendar & Chamomile Scented Bubble Bath & Lotion. I LOVE this stuff! I have received many compliments that my children always smell so nice - who wouldn't like that? And it is magic at soothing the kids to sleep at night. My mother in law liked the scent so much she purchased some to keep at Nana's house when we visit. The most popular brand is by Johnson & Johnson, however, being the "Tar-JAE" fan that I am, enjoy the Target brand better. Its priced at little over a $1 - can't beat that price for a good night's sleep! Also the Soothing Vapor Baby Bath is great for when your baby is congested. Make sure to read warning labels as some brands do not recommend you use this in your newborn's bath.
Maya Sling. This is hands down, the BEST thing I bought when I had my first baby! I LOVE THIS SLING! I actually used to take my daughter to work with me and she would sleep all the time in this sling. Its like magic - the baby whisperer! So comfortable, so durable (yes I've used it for ALL 3) and it is very chic looking. I got the plain black sling with gold rings so that I could wear it with everything. I can't tell you how many interested mommies came up to me wanting to learn more about it. As an added bonus it also has a convenient little pocket that I put my keys, wallet, cell phone in.
and last but certainly NOT least....A Changing Wallet. I know, I know. What is that? The skinny on the Changing Wallet is this ladies, its better than a diaper bag. We as women are hoarders. We want to be ready for any and every emergency. But frankly, if you're going to the grocery store real quick, or just doing some quick errands, you don't have to lug everything with you. The wallet enables you to bring about 4 diapers, ointment, wipes, and has a convenient changing pad already built in. If you're a nursing mom, well, you got the 'bottles' with you. There's also room for any other small incidentals you may need. In a later post I will discuss the Perfectly Packed Diaper Bag.

Happy shopping!

~The Domestic Goddess

It's Time to Talk Week - My Story

2009-12-03T09:17:00.000-08:00

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Dear Goddesses in Training,

I recently saw a post from the Joyful Heart Foundation that announced their week long "It's Time to Talk" event focusing on an effort to talk about domestic violence. In response, and in an effort to begin a dialogue about this topic, this is my story.

First of all, my story isn't pretty. It did not start with a great romance and end with self revelation like you see in the movies. It is an end-less cycle that I hope will inspire you to remember the silent stories that are rarely told.

My story began many years before I was born. My mother, a child of a single parent too, was abused. At six she was raped by a cousin. For years she suffered in silence and dared not tell. But the pain remained and transformed her into someone who doubted her self value and was unable to love herself enough to search for true love. Every relationship she had as an adult was somehow connected to this. It was like she couldn't step away from abuse. Almost as if she didn't know how to love without it. And she took me with her on her journey. A silent witness to all she endured.

As a child I experienced this abuse with her, but she never realized it. I would sit alone in my bed, listening to the arguments and hearing her pain in silence. I would pray to God for it to stop. And later when it became too much, I would pray to never wake up.

The children of those who are abused are trapped by it. I can remember hating going home. I was involved in over half a dozen school groups just so I could be away every weekend and get home late every night. I hid my story from everyone and did my best to make excuses as to why my friends couldn't come over or spend the night. I kept everyone at a distance. Later I joined a group where I could talk about drugs and abuse. At 14 years old, I was an expert.

I remember so much from that time. I was afraid to attend school dances because Mom would show up with Him. Drunk, he would dance with her in front of my friends. At home he would hide guns in various places and take them out when he was raging, pointing them at my mother's head. Later she would try to show him how ridiculous he was by getting drunk too. But her grief would take over then, as she would turn on herself and cry that she just wanted it all to end. I cannot count the times I would talk her off her "ledge" saying how much I loved her and needed her. But pain like that is too deep to feel anymore, any one else's. It was like she couldn't hear me. She promised to see me graduate, but couldn't promise any more than that.

I remember finding her after she was raped by one of her abusers. Her words, "why didn't you hear me?" haunted me for years. You might say I tried to heal others because of it, shaping my professional life and the reason I went into psychology. I was not released by it until someone asked me, "You were 8 years old, what could you have done?"

The truth is I couldn't do anything. Even now its hard to talk about with her. I couldn't do anything to save my Mother. But as a Mother and the wife of a good man I am able to share my story and hope that others are changed by it. I pray that those of you who need to read this are inspired to step away. To realize that there are other suffering with you. That you are worth more than this. That you are not meant for anything less than greatness because your children expect greatness from and through you. It was a sad day when I realized that my mother was too weak and too damaged to step away. My childhood ended in that moment and I became the one that had to be great. I had to be strong for both of us and that is a weight too heavy for any child's shoulders to bare.

So I leave you with the image that I still hold in my mind. A hole in the wall left by one of my mother's abusers. Shortly after it appeared in my mother's wall, we switched rooms. She couldn't bare to see it and we couldn't afford to repair it. So her room became mine. She placed a poster of ballerinas over it, hiding it from me. But I knew it was there. And it haunted me and still haunts me today.

Don't bury your stories ladies. Even if you try to hide from them, your children are the story-keepers, the carriers of your truth. We know its there. Dare to change your story for us.

~The Domestic Goddess

A Grand Tradition

2009-12-03T07:50:00.000-08:00

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Dear Goddesses in Training,

The holidays are upon us! The weatherman tells me that tomorrow it may even snow - the first of many miracles that await us this season. My daughter is already waiting with baited breath for the first snowflake to fall...

As I sit, in Scrooge-like splendor, I remember Christmases past. When I was a little girl, each Christmas held so much hope. "The time for miracles," I would hear. At the time, I felt that no one needed miracles more than my family.

I was a child of a single parent. Our family was much like those after school specials I would often see on TV. Divorced, spit, shattered, abused family wrought with drama. So much so that as I got old enough and clever enough to make my own choices, I would avoid my house like the plague - band practice, newspaper editors meetings, color guard - anything to avoid my house.

Now, as a mother with children of my own I realize how tragic that really is. To go from a child full of hope to a child full of doubt. When do the miracles end? And how do I keep my own children believing?

I think the key is to hold sacred the little things that hold families together. Looking back I realize that I lost my belief once I forgot the things that my Mother and I did that really mattered to me.

One year my Mom and I were homeless. We were living in a trailer that my uncle "generously" let us rent that had no heat. It was the dead of winter in Louisiana and I will never forget how incredibly cold I felt. There was snow outside but I didn't dare play in it. I was cold. Cold to the bone. But Mom tried her best to make the most of it. She learned to make this amazing chili that was so hot it made the top of my head prickle. I used to crawl up in blankets, surrounding myself and my bowl as tightly as I can. I looked outside the window as I ate and saw my first cardinal. A spot of red in a sea of white. And for those moments, the season was beautiful.

A friend of mine offered to cut a tree down for us. I was excited, but then disappointed to find this tree limb-like branch sitting outside our door one morning. Mom saw it for its possibilities though and cheerfully said we just had to be creative and see its potential. She drew little angels on paper and we colored them. Then we stuffed them with toilet paper and tied them with string - voila! Ornaments! Later we made popcorn and strung that on string too. Garland! There never was a better rendition of a Charlie Brown tree.

There are many Christmases that I can remember with my family, but that one stands out the most in my mind because hope was still there, in our most hopeless moments. Looking back I now see what Mom meant. Miracles are in the things we dare to see, past the realities that blind us from hope.

Today my husband and I try our best to instill that in our kids. We do this through traditions that we never stray from, even when times are hard. Last year my husband was laid off soon after I left my job. We also found out we were pregnant. A stressful and financially trying time for us. But despite what may have seemed like a hopeless time for us, we still found the resources to take our children to the Pipe Creek Tree Farm. For the past 6 years we have traveled there for our yearly Tree Hunt & Chop. Selecting and cutting down your own Christmas tree may seem like a difficult and silly thing when there are artificial trees conveniently available, and prelit, in most department stores, but for us it keeps the hope alive. It builds memories for our family and excitement in our children. Remembering what my Mom did for me is what drives me every year to make this possible.

This year we placed our tree next to our fireplace. Every morning I come downstairs and see I remember that Charlie Brown tree from so long ago. And I smile. I smile because there is little difference between the two. Miracles happen through prayer and faith. But also through the hands of love that bring them to you.

Happy Holidays my Goddesses. Remember to be those hands for your family not only during this season, but always. And never stop believing!

~The Domestic Goddess

ONE GREAT MEAL: Roast Chicken

2009-11-12T14:46:00.000-08:00

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Dear Goddesses in Training,

There is a lot of contention when it comes to the proper way to roast a turkey. If you have yet to try it, or yet to be successful at it, I suggest practicing with a chicken first. This recipe is easy, delicious and you have the option of roasting it in the oven or the crock pot. Enjoy ONE GREAT MEAL with your family tonight!

Step 1: Grocery List

MEAT SECTION:

Whole Chicken Roaster -Helpful Hints: Purchase 1 lb per members of the family. This will ensure that you have enough for left overs.

VEGETABLE SECTION:

1 Lemon
1 Onion- Helpful Hint: Always buy Yellow/Spanish Onions. They won't make you tear up when you chop them and are sweet, not so oniony in favor.
1 Head of Garlic
Celery- Helpful Hint: Once you get home throw away those plastic produce bags that this comes in and wipe down (don't rinse) the celery with a damp cloth. Then wrap it in paper towels and place in a vegetable ziploc bag. This will keep it from getting limp.

FROM THE FRIDGE/PANTRY: (If you don't have these items in stock, make them a part of your regular pantry items)

Butter or Margarine
Salt & Pepper
Your choice of spices, Rosemary and Thyme are good pairings

Step 2: Prepare!

INGREDIENTS:

1 Whole Chicken
1 Lemon, Cut in 8ths
1/2 head of garlic - cut head in half, exposing the meat of the cloves
1/4 onion, cut in quarters
1 stalk celery, cut in small pieces
2 TBSP Butter/Margarine
Salt & Pepper to taste
Spices of your choice to taste

PREPARATION:

Take out chicken liver, heart and neck out from the chicken cavity (discard if you don't like these or retain for chicken stock/stuffing later), rinse chicken and pat dry.
Take your fingers and squish them in between the chicken's skin and the meat of the chicken. Just do this over the chicken breast area. Wash hands.
Add the butter and all spices to a small bowl. Mix. Using your hands again, place the butter mixture in between the chicken skin and breast.
Sprinkle the outside of the chicken with salt and pepper.
Stuff chicken cavity with veggies, just as much as will fit.
If roasting in crock pot: Place the chicken in the pot, cover, and set to cook for 4 to 6 hours.
If cooking in the oven: Place in roasting pan (its that silly pan that has a crate-like insert for the chicken to rest on), cover with foil and bake at 350 degrees. The amount of time your bird flies in the oven is based upon the following rule: calculate a cooking time of 20 minutes per pound of meat plus an additional 10 - 20 minutes at a temperature of 350ºF. You will know it is done when the leg can be easily pulled away from the breast and the fluids run clear.

Stay tuned for Roast Chicken transforms into CHICKEN TACOS and for my SIDE WAYS dish, SAUTEED GREEN BEANS.

~The Domestic Goddess

Avoiding the Meltdown: The NEW Stress Relievers

2009-11-12T07:57:00.000-08:00

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Dear Goddesses in Training,

Not only am I The Domestic Goddess, but I also hold another title of distinction. I am the Sultaness of Stress. This does not mean that I always handle my frustration well, in fact it is still a challenge for me, but a declaration of a long standing struggle with doing it all with a smile.

I am sure most, if not all of you, can relate to my daily dilemma. Marriage, children, oh yeah and that little thing called work/career, amount to an insurmountable array of multiple personalities that we must magically switch between daily.

Sybil, eat your heart out!

We are The Ear Lender, Shena the Sex Kitten, Kisser of Owies, Fluffy's Dog Walker Extraordinaire, Molly Maid, 'Jeaves' the Jolly Taxi Driver, Top Chef, Valet, Milk Dispenser, and Holder of all Memories and Information for all members of the family - to name a pitiful few.

So what do we do when the stress of our kids not getting a long, the teething baby and our husband who won't pick up his socks goes a little too far? Run away? I must admit, sometimes I am a big candidate for abdicating my throne. But in all reality, this is our kingdom, no matter how chaotic. And throwing a scepter is not an option.

I recently did a search for 'Mommy Stress Relievers' and what I found was nothing short of LAME-O! Really how many times can we take a nice relaxing bubble bath or 'a nice soothing breath'? Whatever! Whoever wrote that doesn't truly realize the reality of guerilla mothering in a modern world.

So in response I have compiled a list that will help me...you...me...find some clarity when The Mommy Howls.

DANCE...The other day I turned away from the laundry eating my couch, the kids fighting, and the dinner I had yet to create and turned on the radio. I found some rockin', screamin' hits - I recommend anyone with a really strong or gritty voice - Pink (is my favorite), Joan Jett - whatever gets you off your feet. Dance like you don't care ALL OVER THE HOUSE. Christen a room every time you feel flipped out. Then flip out with the music. My kids loved this and joined in. We had a blast!
SCREAM...Yes, I said it. Now I don't mean for you to get your neighbors calling 911 or anything, I mean scream something funny or a positive affirmation. My kids screamed "I love my Mom!" out the windows of my car once. That gave me this idea. Scream something like "I love my kids!" or "I love laundry!" or even "I can do this!" Sounds silly, yes, but that's the point.
MAKE A MESS...While we don't like it when our kids do it, making a mess does have value. But just be picky as to the mess you make. When the kids are asleep, take out pictures and that scrapbooking stuff you haven't used in a while (or ever) and create something. Record a memory in a fun, new way. I did this with my husband and my old photos from when we were dating. I can't say how lovely it was to reflect on those times and laugh about them. It made me appreciate the now and the mess was fun to make!
LIGHT A CANDLE...Keeping all fire precautions in mind, light a candle in whatever room you are in. Whether its folding laundry or paying your bills (try to avoid the temptation to set fire to them ladies) light a candle in that room. I like the beachy ones or those that smell like Christmas. Somehow its soothing. A small pampering for all that you do.
SQUEEZE...Grab one of your kids or your sweetie today and hug them for at least 5 minutes. Don't have time? Make time! Tell them what they mean to you. Brush the hair from their face. My husband once asked my kids what they like most about Mommy, they said it was my hands and the gentle way I touch their face. I can't express how much that means to me and the lasting effect my love has on them always makes me smile.
HOLLYWOOD KISS...Yes, Sara Jessica Parker sure had this one right! When I'm feeling overwhelmed I ask my hubby for one of these. It always makes me feel light, feminine and reminds me of how we fell in love in the first place - which is the cornerstone of our life and all that I do now.
SMILE AT A BABY...Oh how my baby gives me joy! All I do is look at him and he looks at me with adoring eyes. Don't have a baby anymore? Look at your kids with eyes full of love and see what happens. (Note: Teenagers may be exempt from this one, borrow a friend's kid)
MAKE LOVE...Yes! I said it, and husbands across the world are adoring the Goddess right now. I know you're too tired. And I know it feels like yet another thing you have to do. But my best advice about sex, at any time not just during stressful times, is make it right, don't just 'make it.' So often we lose the 'love' in lovemaking and just rush to the finish, the release. Give yourself, all your 5 senses to your lover. Remember: Sight, Sound, Smell, Touch and Taste. You'll thank me later, but do so without my knowledge. :)
REDECORATE YOUR BATHROOM...I know, right, after the sex thing this seems minute. But create a haven for yourself. Something that is totally you. You like hot pink or lime green? Paint those walls honey. Because even if its only a second of your day, make it a second in which you are YOU, not Mommy, Honey or Can You Fax This? This is a place to breathe, reboot and smile. A place where no one expects anything of you. And make it known that when you are in there, you are not to be disturbed.
PLAY...Above all else, rediscover your inner child. Being an adult sucks. Let's be honest. Embrace your inner child and play barbies. Play trains. Run and climb on the monkey bars. Have your kids push you down the slide. Having been born 30 right from the start, this is hard for me. But I must admit, when I let go, this makes me feel better than anything.

~The Domestic Goddess

Goddess Mommy Question of the Day:

2009-11-10T08:27:00.000-08:00

What is the most memorable meal that YOUR mom made you when you were a child?

Julie Dahlberg

Without a doubt, that would be fried chicken, mashed potatoes and green beans...a regular favorite at our dinner table, now.

Sean Buck

Cinnamon Toast every morning before school...good memories

Janice Bobo

Poached egg on toast whenever I was sick

Thank you to all my Facebook buddies for your input!

I think the best thing to remember about these posts is that food is a definite cornerstone to the family experience. We can all think of a time when we gathered around a table and shared good times, as well as good food, with people we cared about.

So next time you are too tired to cook or just don't want to, remember: its not just a meal, its a memory. If its Chinese take-out, so be it. But what can you do to make it memorable? Perhaps order an extra set of fortune cookies, or play a game with such cookies. If you're in the mood for pizza, but are too stressed from a day at the office, grab a pre-made pizza crust, shredded cheese, and pre-made ingredients. Slap the stuff on the table and let the kids make dinner for a change. It CAN be easy and memorable.

~The Domestic Goddess

ONE GREAT MEAL: Pot Roast - Leftovers Transformed!

2009-11-05T09:56:00.000-08:00

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Dear Goddesses in Training,

There's nothing worse in my opinion, then throwing food away, well maybe there's something worse - the sound of my child's voice as he utters "Oh, man, we're having that again?!"

I hate that!

So in response, I thought I would cleverly fight back. Again you say? Heck yeah! But you'll never know...

This recipe is designed for leftover pot roast. Whether you've tried this Goddess's version, or your own, PULLED BEEF SANDWICHES are a great alternative to a whiny child or a trashcan full of good food. What's great about this recipe is 1.) it calls for stuff you should already have in your kitchen and 2.) its essentially a recipe for homemade BBQ Sauce. Leave out the beef and make this for your next party on chicken, beef, whatever! Your guests will be impressed.

INGREDIENTS:

Left Over Pot Roast, shredded
1 cup Water
1 cup Ketchup
1/2 cup Vinegar
1/4 cup Oil
1/4 cup Onion
3 TBSP Worcestershire Sauce
2 TBSP Honey
2 cloves Garlic, minced
1 TBSP Caldo de Pollo
1 TBSP Paprika
2TSP Chili Powder
Salt & Pepper

PREPARATION

Warm oil in large skillet. Brown the shredded beef in the pan,
Add rest of the ingredients.
Cover and simmer 15 minutes.
Serve on hamburger buns and enjoy!

~The Domestic Goddess

SIDE WAYS: Mac 'n Cheese

2009-11-05T08:47:00.000-08:00

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What's ONE GREAT MEAL without great side dishes?

After years of trying to create a rue (a flour concoction which assists in the thickening process of most sauces), which is the cornerstone of most homemade Mac 'n Cheese recipes, I improvised and came up with something better. This is a recipe that's super easy and never leaves any leftovers, so I know its good!

Step 1: Grocery List

DAIRY SECTION

1 lb American Cheese - Helpful Hint: Always use American Cheese for this recipe. When the cheese melts it becomes its own cheesy sauce, its what makes this so easy! Velveeta is ok, but real American cheese is so much better for you and your family.
Butter or Margarine
Milk

PASTA SECTION

12 oz bag of Pasta Shells (Large) - Helpful Hint: The large shells hold the cheese so much better than the traditional macaroni noodles. Also get a full pound of shells if you are feeding a big family.

FROM YOUR PANTRY (If you don't have these items in stock, make them a part of your regular pantry items)

Paprika
Salt & Pepper

Step 2: Prepare!

INGREDIENTS

12 oz bag of Large Pasta Shells
1/2 lb of American Cheese, shredded - Helpful Hint: Shred the cheese yourself or ask your hubby to do it for you. The already shredded bags of cheese are convenient, but FULL of preservatives and salt. There's a reason why that stuff has such a long shelf life!
1/2 cup milk
2 TBSP Butter or Margarine
1/2 TSP Paprika
Salt and Pepper to taste

PREPARATION

In a large saucepan boil your noodles until tender. Drain.
All all remaining ingredients. Stir.
Cover and let sit on low heat for 5 minutes.
Enjoy!

This recipe is so good, you may have to make a double recipe - trust me!

~The Domestic Goddess

GODDESS Mommy Question of the day:

2009-11-04T19:47:00.000-08:00

What is the best way to deal with your child's whining/complaining/tantrums?

Answer from Angus Davis, House Husband Extraordinaire (Via Facebook):
2 Timothy 3:16--teach, correct, train, rebuke---eye contact and expectations, as well as a balance of understanding when it is more feelings based instead of an actucal issue--all three of the items you listed are "time" consuming and not won by a single response/discipline---they are long-term applied skills--then when the tantrum is over talk about it, set goals and give some great praise and hugs.

Thanks Angus for your response!

If you'd like to leave a comment or your own answer to this Question of the Day, please do! Your input is always appreciated.

~The Domestic Goddess

ONE GREAT MEAL: Pot Roast (Now with Video!)

2009-11-04T07:59:00.001-08:00

Dear Goddesses in Training.

Are you a visual learner? Yeah, me too. Here are a few simple videos I put together to demonstrate my pot roast recipe. Enjoy and post any questions you may have.

Click to play -

Part 1: PREPARING THE VEGGIES, CARE & SELECTION OF ROAST

Part 2: BROWNING THE MEAT

Part 3: DEGLAZING THE PAN & COOKING WITH WINE

Part 4: BRINGING IT ALL HOME

Enjoy!

~The Domestic Goddess

ONE GREAT MEAL: Pot Roast

2009-11-03T08:53:00.000-08:00

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Hello Goddesses in Training!

The pot roast is something that everyone should have in their culinary repertoire. This recipe is one that I have come up with after a lot of trial and error. It is ALWAYS a hit with my family (I even made it for Christmas dinner last year) and the left overs are always a big hit.

Also, this is a Crock Pot recipe, so its important to start the prep in the morning before you go to work, or even the night before, put away in the morning, and warm up for dinner. Whatever is easier for your schedule.

Step 1: Grocery List

MEAT SECTION:

3 lbs Pot Roast -Helpful Hints: buy Boneless Beef Chuck/Rump Roast; About 3lbs will feed a family of 4 (young children) but purchase more if you need a lot of left overs; Always place the meat package into a plastic bag that they provide in the meat section - protect your other groceries and/or fridge from the mess and bacteria.

VEGETABLE SECTION:

1 Cabbage - this is optional, but trust me. The cabbage will be juicy and melt in your mouth.
1 lb Carrots - Helpful Hints: Fresh is best; Get the small carrots if you don't want to chop it.
1 Lemon - Helpful Hint: Always buy Yellow/Spanish Onions. They won't make you tear up when you chop them and are sweet, not so oniony in favor.
1 Head of Garlic

FROM THE PANTRY: (If you don't have these items in stock, make them a part of your regular pantry items)

Oil - Helpful Hints: Olive oil gives almost anything a great flavor; Canola oil is very healthy; Vegetable Oil is ok as at least its not lard!
Salt & Pepper
White Wine - Helpful Hints: Cooking with wine is great if you follow one rule - cook with something that you would drink. The flavor will get into the dish you are preparing so this does make a difference. Also, if you are preparing this meal for children, its still ok to use the wine. Given the right cooking time, the alcohol will burn off.

Step 2: Prepare!

INGREDIENTS:

3lbs Roast
3 TBSP Oil
4 Cloves Garlic, minced (Food process this with onion if you don't want to chop/don't have the time)
1/2 Onion, Chopped
1/2 Cabbage, roughly chopped into big pieces
3 Carrots, sliced
1/2 Lemon
1/4 Cup White Wine
1/2 Cup Water
Salt & Pepper to taste

PREPARATION:

Take out crock pot and add your prepped veggies (all but onion and garlic) to the bottom.
Heat oil in large pan.
Unwrap the roast and season with salt and pepper.
Add roast to pan and brown all edges.
Put roast into crock pot on top of veggies.
Go back to pan and add garlic and onion. Saute for 1-2 minutes. Then add wine (step back a bit when adding this) and water. With a wooden spoon "de-bit" or deglaze the pan by rubbing off all of the bits of meat that are still stuck to the bottom. This should take about 3-5 minutes.
Pour wine mixture over roast in crock pot.
Set it for 6-8 hours.

Voila! You are done until dinner time! I usually serve this with mashed potatoes on the side.

Video to follow for all of you visual learners!

And stay tuned for leftover magic where we turn this dish into PULLED BBQ BEEF SANDWICHES!

~The Domestic Goddess

Introducting the ONE GREAT MEAL series...

2009-11-03T08:21:00.000-08:00

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Hello Goddesses in Training!

As you know, making meals for your hubby or family is sometimes a challenge. Oh, let's be honest, its a pain! I have heard from many of you that its just exhausting and sometimes too much for you to create yet again one more meal that your family will not only eat, but enjoy.

What I have learned is that I don't have to be a gourmet cook. I don't have to be too creative or ingeniously serve a completely new meal everyday of the year. I just have to work smarter, not harder, at disguising what I have already created. Think of that old commercial where the wife puts flour on her nose to make her family believe she's been slaving away in the kitchen all day. SHE was a culinary genius.

So in response to our need to find helpful solutions in the kitchen and in honor of the upcoming holiday season, I am very excited to introduce the ONE GREAT MEAL series during the month of November. In these tutorials, given in written and video instruction, I will help you to build a steady menu of items that are not only easy to make, but easy to turn into a brand new meal using its leftovers. The idea here is that cooking doesn't have to be complicated. You don't even have to know how to cook well. Just have a few GREAT MEALs under your belt and you/your family will never lack a happy table.

So whether you're a burnt out (haha, pun) mom of five, or a new wife just learning to cook, I hope these meals will make your life easier and your time in the kitchen more fun.

Great Expectations: A Lesson from the Beginning

2009-10-27T10:01:00.000-07:00

I was a very different girl in the beginning.

When Luis (my Prince) and I were first married I was barely a woman, let alone an adult. I was fun-loving and giggly. Some might say I was a lot of fun. But the brunt of getting married woke me up from my rest and I believed at the time that I had to wake up and grow up. I felt that because now I was a wife, and CEO of my household, that I was solely responsible for the happiness of my family.

You might say I expected myself to be the ideal Stepford Wife.

In retrospect I caught hold of this idea with such tenacity because I didn't know any better. My role models were not ideal and I had no idea how to be a good wife to a good man. I thought it was necessary to keep the house immaculate and to learn to cook the best meals he had ever eaten in order to (in truth) deserve him and make him happy.

And I tried to do so for years.

But truthfully people, who can live up to those expectations? How can we do it all? Most women today are not housewives, we are hard working professionals who put in a full work day ON TOP of being a wife and mother. I did that for a long time and now I look back on those times with exhaustion and very little joy. How could I be joyous as an automaton?

Also, whoever started this idea that wives had to be perfect, probably had never seen one! I know when I wake up in the morning after only three to four hours of sleep and slug into my jeans and t-shirt I am certainly at my least fabulous. Fast forward to 6pm and it doesn't get any better as I am covered in dinner spray and baby spit up. Odeur de Momme is not a best seller I am told.

The best lesson I have learned about expectations is don't have any. Look at each day as a challenge judged not by perfection, but by the flashes of memory you have as you drift off to sleep. Do you have images of your children's smiling faces and the lingering kiss of your husband? Or are you burdened by the feeling that the dinner napkins aren't pressed or that next month's birthday party isn't completely planned? And most importantly, are you looking forward to tomorrow?

Be realistic with yourself! You are only one person.

When you feel bogged down by your expectations, remember these things:

It is OK to not complete a task. If someone's life or a paycheck don't depend on it, just do what you can today. The rest will still be there tomorrow.
It is OK to ask for help from your family. No matter how young or old, they are capable of helping you, even in a small way. But when asking for assistance, you MUST NOT redo what they've helped you to do. Remember, as The Flylady says, "Even housework done wrong still blesses your family."
It is OK (listen closely now) to take a break or say "No." You don't have to bake cookies for your daughter's soccer team. They'll win or lose without them. You don't have to iron all your husband's shirts all in one day. He knows how to stick one in the dryer if he has to. Read a book. Do something for you. FIND YOUR JOY! Your family will be happier when you are happier.

Welcome!

2009-10-26T09:19:00.000-07:00

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My dearest Goddesses in Training,

I'd like to start this blog by telling you a true story...

One day, many, many moons ago, I walked into a magical land. I walked straight into it, with a slow pace about my feet and the most beautiful gown upon my back. This land was enchanting to me, as it was surrounded by gorgeous flowers. And at the entrance of this place was a handsome prince who promised to take care of me, love me, and cherish me forever. I had heard of the land from so many other women who had tried their whole lives to get there. And I was happy as my prince led me away on our white stead.

Little did I know that the land wasn't always rosey. In fact, it scared the crap out of me.

There's no denying that marriage has been talked up by Disney and our single lady friends for some time. However, once we take that plunge, and the joyous wedding is over, what next??

I got married when I was 23 years old. Very young by today's standards. I had no experience with a healthy relationship, as my parents looked at marriage and divorce like a hobby (they have done it at least 8 times between them). To be honest, I had no idea how to be a wife.

Who would've thought that I would have to learn all about how to iron my prince's shirts and tie a tie? I don't remember Cinderella cleaning out the carriage after she got out of it! What is this? No one warned me! Where is my perfection? Where is my maid Maria? What? Me? Maria? No way! And certainly nothing prepared me for the entrance of work, children, bills and everything in between.

This year marked my seventh anniversary with my dear prince. He has fulfilled his promises and we have tried TOGETHER to make everyday magical. But to be honest, there was a lot that we both had to learn along this journey.

So this blog is dedicated to the Domestic Goddess that lives within all of us, but we just haven't met yet. If you find that you can relate to my fairytale, I hope that this little corner of the world brings you comfort.

I will be posting blogs, photos and video of little bits of knowledge I've learned over the years. It is my sincere wish that these Domestic Goddess Lessons will pave the way for a more magical day for you all.